Last Sunday, I went to two convalescent homes with a Buddhist group. we brought in some performances to entertain the elders. at each facility we had about 30 to 40 grandmas and grandpas, some of them are very old, some of them could not even open their eyes and some of them has no expression on their face what so ever and yet some look excited. at each of the facility, I hold hands and looked at some of the elders in their eyes with care. I shifted to the front of an elderly lady. I don’t know her exact age, I assumed at least 80 years old. she appeared fragile and her skin is very pale. I extended my hand to hold hers. initially she looked down at my hand holding her hand then she looked up into my eyes with minor surprise then gradually a spark lightened up in her eyes and through her eyes I think I saw a sense of joy flowing through her body. She pulled my hand to her lips and kissed my hands. initially i was a little resistant and tried to pull my hands away, then I removed that resistance and just let her kiss my hand. She needed a human connection like that. She needed someone to be there for no reason what so ever. I did not do much on that day and I did not spent much time there on that day. comparing to the workers that are there day in and day out and taking care of these grandpas and grandmas what I did on that day is not much, but I feel really good about it. about the brief moments of pure connection. Every time I hold their hands, they hold my hands too and they accepted my humanly interaction. some responded quickly and others responded a little slower. most looked me in the eyes with a touch of love, a desire for love, a fulfillment from connection on the most basic basis. I could feel the pureness of each human interaction and I could feel that basic human connection as well as they do. This is a pure human interaction without expectation of anything in return. Everyone has a story in their mind. Some of the elders may very well be loved by their kids and yet some others may not have anybody visiting them. A visit from me and others in my group may remind the second category of elders that something is so pure that people will give it without asking anything in return. what does that mean? could it mean the existence of pure love? could it be a confirmation? It maybe a one time instance or it maybe something eternal.

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