on the way home

March 10, 2009

drove 6 hours from San Francisco to home in Los Angel es today and took a half hour break for dinner. it was about 400 miles total. I was driving 80 miles average. some times i drove slower and some times i drove faster. Most of the time I was driving pretty slow. the whole time I tried to pick up speed. every time when I picked up speed I reminded myself to always have safety as the number one priority. my 100% intention was safety, so that safety is ensured. notice that my number one intention was not to get to home early because if I had that as number one then I may drive very fast and it may lead to accident.

this is an example of how important intention is. In fact it is the most important thing in getting any result. not only the intention has to be 100%, it also need to be precise. for example I had safety as my priority so my 100% intention was safety. In business it looks like this. if my 100% intention was to have ten million gross profit the result into an overall lose in the business because expenses maybe mismanaged and ate up all of the gross profit. on the other hand if my 100% intention is ten million net profit then the business is likely be be profitable because it is profit after expenses. however it may still not be enough. you may ask why. Because what if employees are not taken care of f that could be a huge long term problem. taking it a step further. If our 100% intention is ten million net profit and happy employees then this 100% intention would be a sustainable 100% intention because when employees are also happy then the business can be competitive and strong in the long run.

selling is not about making profit. it is about benefiting the buyer. How does one make sure that the buyer get the benefit? first the buyer have to be willing to hear what the seller has to say. how does a seller make sure the he/she is heard? a very easy way to make sure that happens is being authentic. Being authentic doing what? Being authentic when sharing a personal story without any hold backs. when the buyer hears that the seller is sharing a personal and authentic story the buyer start to trust the seller. the seller’s authentic story shows the benefit of the product or service. However the seller is not using the authentic story as a bait to get the buyer. seller share the story simply because the it is does some good for the buyer.   Regardless of whether the buyer buy or not. 

After buyer get the authentic sharing, then seller can say that i want you to get what I got too. 

then the seller could invite the buyer to purchase.

Without a Shell

March 8, 2009

Ever since I came to the United States I have gradually built up a shell without me knowing. When I was in China I lived in a small community where most of my classmates lived nearby and our parents knew each other too. So every time we see each other on the street we are always very friendly to each other. I still remembered the time back when I did not have a shell, but as time passes by in the United States my shell grew.  Unlike the way it was in China not everyone I met on the street greeted me with warmth.  slowly I accumulated a self built shell or armo that is built of the act of ‘I am better than you.” and “I don’t trust you.” without knowing I have been walking around with this shell for more than a decade. It made me feel comfortable and good about myself even when I am met with numb and expressionless stare in the street.  

But with this shell also came with problem.  this shell kept me from having authentic and direct communication with people. As such people either could not figure me out or made many different kind of assumptions about me. 

For the past couple of days I have been practicing being vernerbal and interacting with people without that shell. I just connect with people without any pretense. 

Today I still met with two blank stares. when time when I was walking back from the restroom to the meeting room I walked toward a guy in the hallway.   Another time is when I was getting ready to leave the day’s session a lady was by the exist I saw her and I smiled. She saw me too and she had a blank look on her face. 

Initially I made some very unproductive assumptions and even became a little disturbed. later I thought to myself I need to be bigger then that, step up and being a leader. More specifically being a leader and stand for and cause for those two person. Believing in them in their being now and in their future.

Phantom Victory

March 7, 2009

After having being in the United Sates for 17 years I suddenly realized I have not achieved anything. All of the superficial successes I have achieved bought no fruitful result in which me or my loved ones could benefit from. I saw someone driving a really nice Mercedes Benz S class and I thought to myself I want to have a car like that too, so a few years later I bought a Lexus LS 430. I graduated from Berkeley but with a 2.95 gpa.  I worked for General Electrics and did real estate for 3 years, but I was not able to make much money or save any money from it. Actually result is the opposite, I am almost one hundred thousand in credit card debt now. 

A few months ago I attended PSI basic and there is where I came to this realization. I knew that it was a result of me taking short cuts and doing the absoluteminimumal possible to reach the most easily reachable goals and that is exactly what I managed to do. In actual practice it looks like this, I was just after the the superficial appearance.  Let us say I wanted to get into a top ranking school. I worked hard enough to get accepted, but once in there I was not working as hard as I was before because my commitment and intention is only to get into a top ranked school and graduate. I was able to fulfill this commitment and intention, but that is it. nothing more. So the result I got is a diploma that sounded good but with a poor GPA. As such I did not get much out of it because my intention was just to do the absolute minimum and reach the absolute easiest goal in the shortest amount of time. In the process of achieving this goal I made a lot of short cuts. 

Today at my first class of Introduction Leadership Class I finally figured out why I kept taking short cuts. It is because I made short cut in my integrity.  My integrity is not 100% integrity. It is an integrity with the least effort and reachable in the shortest possible time. When I was asked to committed to 100% integrity i found myself resisting it because it looked like a lot of work down the road, but it suddenly dawned on me that if I committed to 100% integrity then I would be able to get true results, results that me and my loved ones could enjoy the benefit of my victories from. So, I have decided and i am committed to 100% integrity in every part of my life. Hence my life may actually start to work and that me and my loved ones could enjoy the finer things in life and most importantly at all others would be transformed too because I am committed to 100% integrity.

You may not know it, but you are a Star.   The North Star   Once upon a time all the stars in the sky shine the same brightness because they all wanted to look like each other. The North Star is a much brighter star amongst these stars. Although she is much brighter, she however shines like everybody else no brighter nor dimmer because she wanted her fellow stars to accept her. The way she had been shinning was not her true natural. One day she accidentally revealed her true brightness. A day in the sky is one year on earth and she could see that all the journeymen on earth are using her as a guiding light to find direction of north, so that they can find their ways. North star felt really happy and pleased that she is able to help so many people on earth finding their ways. Although she still wanted to look the same as other fellow stars, however she stopped from dimming herself to look the same as every other star because she saw that her brightness could help so many people on earth. She continued to shine her true brightness and helping those people on the road. From thereon, she started to be her true self, a bright North Star.   Everything on earth originates from one source. A piece of rock, a worm, a bird, water, a human, a human of any kind, all arises from the same source in the universe. We all came from one single creator. Although we may all are very unique, however we are one the same. In physical matter we may be in unique form, however our substances are one of the same. There is no difference between you and me.   Some have a hard time accepting one self because he/she thinks he/she is too unique from everybody else. Although this person maybe indeed very unique from everybody else however this person is no different from everybody else. Yes indeed, some may judge this person because this person being judged is very unique from the person that is judging but that is ok. Everyone has the right to his or her opinion. Some may be open-minded while others are not. We have no control of others except ourselves. We can open our heart to everybody, instead of judging and not accepting. After all nobody is the same anyway. Why judge someone just because that someone is unique from you? More important, we will also not judge ourselves, but rather accept ourselves for who we are. We welcome the people that love us. What we will not do is to let the people that do not welcome us for who we are to diminish our self worth and our right for happiness.   If we have the above mentality we would no longer have hatred for anyone. We would no longer hide anything about ourselves from anyone. If we are indeed very unique from everybody else we may choose to advertise it or we may choose to just let it be but we will not make an attempt to hide it nor will we live in the fear of worrying about anybody else discovering our uniqueness. After all we are all the same, despite how unique we maybe from one another. After all being unique is a good thing. If we are exactly the same as everybody else how mundane would that be and how pointless would that be? Our unique talents would also be diminished, if we had hiding it from others. Our talents that could have helped others would have been wasted, just like North Star’’s talent to shine brighter than every other star.   To become a star and a champion, one has to discover and because one is able to accept the true identity of oneself, no matter how unique this identity maybe from anybody else. The big hurdle in attempting this is dealing with the appearance of social norm and social conformity. Just like initially when North Star tried to hide her brightness because she mistakenly thought every star should shine the same brightness. In many cases people are brainwashed by the massive influence of social norm and social conformity. People are almost always very unique from one another, but because social norm is such a massive force that people sometimes mistaken it as their truth identity or the accepted way to be. People mistook the conventionally accepted norm as the character of oneself because that one person is bombarded with outside information daily. So to find oneself one needs to not look outward for the true identity of oneself so to avoid mistaking conventional norm as one self’’s true identity, but to look inward to discover and find the true self. It is at this very moment when one finds true identity of oneself a star is born. Just like when North Star mistakenly found out how she could really help others when she shines her true brightness. It is then she gathered enough courage to be her true self and show her true identity. After all a star is deemed to be different. After all if a star is so mundane and ordinary like everybody else how could it ever shine? So remember to find yourself, accept and embrace your uniqueness. Discover the star in you, be daring to show your true identity regardless of how unique it maybe and be the start that you are.

我说: 新年希望!你会心想事成!

Maggie says: 谢谢!我想我不会心想事成!
我说:你会心想事成!
Maggie says:是吗?怎么我对自己这么灰心呢!?
我说:因为你一直告诉自己很灰心。你一直告诉自己不会心想事成。就这么简单。 你给自己编织的故事都是灰色的。 都是沮丧的
Maggie says: 哦,那从现在起,我要改变自己悲观的心理
我说:是的。你知道巴黎铁塔是怎么建成的吗?
Maggie says: 是的,很沮丧。 不知道???
我说:有一个人他想他可以建成巴黎铁塔。 然后他就写了下来。后来碰到很多困难,不过他还是相信它可以建成巴黎铁塔
Maggie says: 哦,明白了,信念,叫努力
我说:同时还有另外一个人也想到要建立巴黎铁塔。 但是他没有建成。
Maggie says: 然后呢?那是为什么呢
我说:因为他每天很沮丧。每天他告诉自己,“我没有钱,我不是建筑师,我不够聪明,我一辈子没有干成过一件事情,每天他碰到打击后就承认了那些打击是他要成功所无法攻克的障碍。是事实。他就丢掉了建立巴黎铁塔的梦想。那时候他才25岁。 他65岁的时候被埋葬了。 不过他是在25岁的时候死去的。 他的梦想和他的心在25岁就死了。 这世界上95%的人都这样。 所以95%的人都过着平庸的生活。 95%人都在虚度余生. 没有梦想,没有希望,每天就是敷衍上班,吃饭,然后找点儿小乐子提醒自己还活着。
Maggie says: 谢谢你,你这个故事很有意思。 也提醒了我
我说: 把生命中带来的转折点当作自己的成就。 比如说结婚, 生孩子。 其实是自己一生无所事事
Maggie says: 陈龙 。 你真棒。
我说:有启发吗?
Maggie says: 呵呵。 恩,你让我明白了,现在暂时清醒了!
我说:你之前都活在梦中
Maggie says: 但不知道明天睡醒后会怎样
我说:一个昏迷的梦
Maggie says: 呵呵,你好像很了解我
我说:你是在做一个被负面情绪俘虏的梦。 我不是了解你。我是了解人性

我问: 过年干嘛了。 有没有相亲啊

vivi China says::我姨妈们集体逼婚

我问:真的啊 ?

vivi China says: en

我问: 咋地。回上海后就是他人妻了?

vivi China says:  说不准

我问:哇。 恭喜 。  终于不用再流浪了你

vivi China says:  该恭喜我妈姨妈。  我本来也没流浪

我问: 意思是有个家了。 你不喜欢别人啊 。喜欢就好了嘛。

vivi China says: 说不出

我问:喜欢还不好意思说

vivi China says: ,我的心早被偷走了

我问: 偷走了还不好? 正好结婚啊

vivi China says: 谁对我来说都一样

我问: 怎么可能 ? 又不是买菜

vivi China says: 只要他们喜欢我就好 。  别嫌弃我就行了

我问:什么妙论 。 怎么可能和一个没有感情的人在一起

vivi China says: 我已经精疲力尽了 。

我问:睡一觉就好了

vivi China says: 不想只为感情浪费精力 。  还有很多事情要做。

我问:感情是人生最大的一部分

vivi China says: 是的,所以我伤痕累累

我问: 感情不好人生在多彩也是黯淡的 。

vivi China says: 别人也伤痕累累

我问:干嘛就一定要伤痕累累

vivi China says: 两个台相爱的人不适合在一起拉

我问:那是价值观不同

vivi China says: 大家都太纯粹

我问: 什么意思

vivi China says: 爱得太累,不能呼吸了

我问:管你很严啊

vivi China says: 反正我再不找很爱的了 。 对我好就行 。 自己有信心,有事业。 我可以退居二线当后面的半边天

我问: 找不爱的早晚会离婚

vivi China says: love grows when you marry a man who loves you

我问: maybe mabye not。  但我觉得那是妙论

vivi China says: 生活本来就死赌注

我问:不是。你有选择权

vivi China says: 两个都相爱的人,太难找了 。 有点爱就够了

我问:这将会是你的人生标准 。有点发展就够了 。有点钱就够了 。有点快乐就够了 。 将就就好哦了

vivi China says: 只要我生病的时候能在我身边,就是好男人

我问:你的标准太低了 。人只活一辈子

vivi China says: 我愿意给他拔胡子,他愿意给我捂肚子

我问:标准还这么低 。

vivi China says: vivi China says: 以前的男朋友什么都有 。就是没有时间陪我 。我现在再不找那种事业狂了 。 我需要有人来分享我的生活

我问: 那就找个喜欢的嘛

vivi China says: 我以前的标准太高了 。得到什么呢? 。 无止境的等待

我问:你知道你在干嘛吗?

vivi China says: 我当然知道阿

我问:你不知道 。你知道什么比经历更重要吗?

vivi China says: 对爱情,我已经经历得很多了 。多得我已经不爱爱情了

我问:交了几个?

vivi China says: 每次都是轰轰烈烈的。  3个。  我要忘记一个人的周期很长 。 爱上一个人也很慢

我问: 哦 。那正好啊。那下次就确定啦再爱嘛

vivi China says: vivi China says: 身边的男孩子都不错。  我姨妈们在帮我挑选

我问:那还不好?

vivi China says: 我做2次选择.  谁都一样

我问: 那恭喜

我真想去沙漠流浪

我问:为什么

vivi China says: 如果谁敢陪我去,我就选择他.

我问:去了你就知道你不想去

vivi China says: 我没那么娇气

我问: 还第一次看你这么伤感

vivi China says: hehe . 我是个乐观派. 以前对爱情有说不完的期待和浪漫 .  现在醒了. 还有好多美好的事情 ,

我问:你没有醒 . 你用你经历过的事情编写了很多个小故事

vivi China says: 哎呀,不讨论这种问题拉

我问: 你其实是活在你的小故事里面。你以为那是现实

vivi China says: 我就是太不现实了. 现在不傻拉

我问: 你是在做梦知道吗?

vivi China says: 哎呀,不管拉

我问: 你现在一直在做梦 . 所有的一切 .

vivi China says: 你把我拉出来吧

我问:所有你的看法 . 两种方法 . 1.你自己给自己重新编写不同的故事

vivi China says: how ?

我问:2.别人证明给你看你那些思维都是偏见。通过你的经历制造的偏见 . 很简单 . 你说那个成功的男友 . 那个经验你编了一个故事 。 你的故事是所有成功的人都是工作狂 。 工作狂都没有时间陪我。我以后不找成功的人 。 这是你的小故事。  换另外一个女孩她会想。这人不知道怎么管理自己时间也不知道怎么平衡自己的生活。我下次要找一个会平衡生活的人 。 看到了吗这女孩的故事不是下次不再找成功人士。

vivi China says: 爱情迟早会转换成亲情的。 你爱过几次了
我问:4 次。 爱情基础上的亲情和没有爱情基础的亲情又是两回事
vivi China says: 我知道拉
我问:我说得有道理吗?
vivi China says: 是啊

Your Mind is a Garden

January 15, 2009

Have you ever noticed on a single street there are many houses with front yards where some are very beautiful while others are rampaged by weeds? Why is it some front yards are so beautifully filled with flowers of all sorts of vibrant colors, while others is just a total mess? the difference is that the owner of the beautiful yard provides it with consistent and tender care, while the other ugly yards are neglected.

This is exactly how our mind works. some spent time daily to pray and repeat their dreams and goals in an attempt to fill their minds with positive and inspiring thoughts while others go though their day mindlessly. Our Mind is a strange thing. If we just let it be, all the thoughts going into it will be negative. If you dont believe it just reflect your past experience to see how your mind has been working.

Our behavior and actions are a direct reflection of our emotions. If we manage our emotion make sure what in our minds are postive and beautiful the actions that we take will be positive. Whereas if we are managed by our emotion our lives would be like a roller coaster because we act accourting to how we feel. We are reacting to our emotions instead of taking logical actions.

So, manage your emotion, instead of being managed by your emotion.

the Human Destiny

January 15, 2009

Past Events –> Value–> Rules–> Our Interpretation –> Emotion –> Thinking –> Decision –> Action –>needs met–> Doubts –> Refocus –> Persistence –> Dream Realized

  1. Past Events: our personal experiences.
  2. Value: every one of us operates under a set of values. Our value determines how we react to things.
  3. Rules:  for each value we have rules. for example one may have value of love. and the rules for fulfilling the value of love maybe anytime one share love, experience love, receive love, give love, and remember the love within oneself.
  4. Our Interpretation: What we make out of the experience? the story we make out of it.
  5. Emotion: if in our value system we believe in pure love we would interpret events one way. on the other hand we would interpret love differently.
  6. Thinking: With an emotional sentiment we then think about what we want to do.
  7. Decision: then we make a decision.
  8. Action: we act upon our decisions.
  9. Doubts: we meet some obstacles and we may have some doubts.
  10. Refocus: we think about the doubts and our reason for taking the action and we refocus and continue our original course of action.
  11. Persistence: We kept going moving toward the same direction.
  12. Dream Realized: until one day we have reached our dream.

AFTER YEARS OF TELLING PEOPLE CHEMOTHERAPY IS THE ONLY
WAY TO TRY AND ELIMINATE CANCER, JOHNS HOPKINS IS
FINALLY STARTING TO TELL YOU THERE IS AN ALTERNATIVE WAY.

Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins :

1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer
cells
do not show up in the standard tests until they have
multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer
patients
that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies
after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to
detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the
detectable size.

2.Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person’s lifetime.

3. When the person’s immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumours.

4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has
multiple nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor destruction.

9. When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence th e person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.

10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.

11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.

WHAT CANCER CELLS FEED ON:

a. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells.Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal,Spoonful etc are made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in colour. Better alternative is Bragg’s aminos or sea salt.

b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intes tinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soya milk, cancer cells are being starved.

c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.

d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains, seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the
body
into an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to no urish and enhance growth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts) and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).

e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine. Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties.Water- best to drink purified water, or filtered, or better yet and is the all-time best, drink mineral water to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap and/or ordinary water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.

12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrified and leads to more toxic buildup.

13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body’s killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.

14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor-ssence, Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable the body’s own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body’s normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.

15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger, unforgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.

16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.

Last Sunday, I went to two convalescent homes with a Buddhist group. we brought in some performances to entertain the elders. at each facility we had about 30 to 40 grandmas and grandpas, some of them are very old, some of them could not even open their eyes and some of them has no expression on their face what so ever and yet some look excited. at each of the facility, I hold hands and looked at some of the elders in their eyes with care. I shifted to the front of an elderly lady. I don’t know her exact age, I assumed at least 80 years old. she appeared fragile and her skin is very pale. I extended my hand to hold hers. initially she looked down at my hand holding her hand then she looked up into my eyes with minor surprise then gradually a spark lightened up in her eyes and through her eyes I think I saw a sense of joy flowing through her body. She pulled my hand to her lips and kissed my hands. initially i was a little resistant and tried to pull my hands away, then I removed that resistance and just let her kiss my hand. She needed a human connection like that. She needed someone to be there for no reason what so ever. I did not do much on that day and I did not spent much time there on that day. comparing to the workers that are there day in and day out and taking care of these grandpas and grandmas what I did on that day is not much, but I feel really good about it. about the brief moments of pure connection. Every time I hold their hands, they hold my hands too and they accepted my humanly interaction. some responded quickly and others responded a little slower. most looked me in the eyes with a touch of love, a desire for love, a fulfillment from connection on the most basic basis. I could feel the pureness of each human interaction and I could feel that basic human connection as well as they do. This is a pure human interaction without expectation of anything in return. Everyone has a story in their mind. Some of the elders may very well be loved by their kids and yet some others may not have anybody visiting them. A visit from me and others in my group may remind the second category of elders that something is so pure that people will give it without asking anything in return. what does that mean? could it mean the existence of pure love? could it be a confirmation? It maybe a one time instance or it maybe something eternal.

I am glad that you are here on my site! wish you the best of luck with your life and let us keep in touch.  I want to share a story with you. 12 years ago when I was in the Army I heard a more experienced soldier talking about how to set aside a portion of his income to be directly deposited into his bank savings account, so that he can save some money. And, that is what I did, when I got out I was able to save a little, but not a lot, just enough for me to purchase a car.  There is another way that is actually better than saving money in the bank, which is to investing in real estates. Here is the steps.

  1. keep a good fico credit score
    1. Get a credit card if dont have one. If no credit at all deposit some money in a bank and get a debt or credit card from that bank
    2. don’t owe more than 50% of your credit limit. example: You have a credit card with $1000 credit line (meaning you can charge it to buy $1k worth of things you want). You take this credit card and go buy your farovite things
    3. pay on time and pay more than the minimum; An example: with that same credit card your pay came with the minimum requried payment to be $49. you dont want to pay just that $49, instead you want to either pay more than $49 or pay it off. a good tool for you to monitor all of your online account is Mint.com. I use it to budget and get text message notices.
    4. call periodically to increase credit line; an exmaple: let us say you have had this account for 8 month and you have been charging on the card and pay more than the minimum amount on a monthly basis now call them to ask for credit increase. Your script to the bank rep.: the bank rep: “how may I help you?” you: “yes. Could you increase my credit line because I am getting ready to make some large purchase.” the bank rep: “ok. I would be happy to do that for you. Ms. Smith do you understand that in order to request for credit increase We would have to run your credit would you still like to proceed?” you: “yes. go ahead please.” the bank rep: “ok. Ms. Smith we have increased your credit line to $1,900. Is there anyting else we may help you with?” you: “no. thank you very much. bye bye.”
    5. keep your credit score as high as possible, ideally over 720
  2. get VA loan eligibility certificate by contacting your local va loan officer
    1. http://www.homeloans.va.gov/rlcweb.htm
  3. start looking for real estates and get a good realtors
  4. sites to do research
  5. find a good mortgage broker and get va mortgage (for your primary residence) and
    1. http://www.homeloans.va.gov/index.htm
    2. http://www.ocwencustomers.com/va_vfp.cfm va vandee loan (for investment homes. you dont have to be a veteran or the princple resident to qualify. the interest rate is currenlty at 5.5%. the down payment needed is 0-5%.
    3. http://www.hud.gov/offices/hsg/sfh/reo/goodn/gnndfaq.cfm it is a special program for law enforcement officers, firefighers, EMT, and teachers
  6. find a good management company to manage your investment property if it is far from you
    • http://www.marshallreddickseminars.com/mrweb/mrren/Home.aspx
    • you may find some good networking information from the group above. I think they make money by referring you to buy other peoples property. you have to make sure the price of properties that they pitch to you are at or below market value.

hope this quick guide was helpful to you. let me know if you have any questions.

how to start a business

October 14, 2008

A new friend from Myspace.com asked me the following question, so I offered my answer.
question: Hello! I want to ask your advice: how to start my own business? If you have been already done it,can you describe your firs steps?

answer:

  1. get yourself ready.
    1. Change your mentality about money. Most of us grew up with the mentality that money is scarce. With this kind of mentality it is very difficult for us to start any business because we are scared of loosing money.  It takes trial and error for a new entrepreneur to learn about building a business. Our first business almost always fails because we are doing it for the first time and loosing money is almost always inevitable. if you are stuck you can get over the fear of loosing money by allowing yourself to loose money. the same goes for overcoming the fear of failing just mentally let go and allow yourself to fail in your business. Most of us are paralyzed by our perceived needs to do everything perfect.  that is why venture capital always prefer to invest in people that have had business start up experience before whether they failed or succeeded.  VCs are looking for people that have been there done that before and that is why for your first business you almost always have to come up with your own money or your family’s money. the only way to get around this is if you already have a product with new technology that has already demonstrated tremendous demand.
    2. your business evaluating skills (absolutely need it now. if you don’t you will fail a couple of times and learn, which is how most people learn. the best way to learn how to evaluate business is to write a thorough business plan. it take at least 3 months for you to hammer out the research and the plan.
    3. your business management skills (may learn as you go. read a lot and try a lot.)
  2. find a partner if you need one. generally it is best to find someone that compliments your skill sets. for example a technical person partnering with a business person. that way the technical person develops the product and the business person can sell the products to the clients.
    1. if you have a lot of money you can hire that partner offer little or no equity.
    2. if you don’t have a lot of money your only choice is to offer equity to start the partnership.
    3. Or if you already secured funding then you can hire the partner too, but without a prototype the chance of getting funding is almost zero.
  3. find money.
    1. have a solid business plan
    2. build the prototype or beta site
    3. prepare a impeccable investment pitch
    4. practice that investment pitch
    5. go out there talk to VCs and angel investors to get funding
    6. make sure that your equity in the company is not diluted to next to nothing.
  4. manage and grow your business
    1. the business process:
      1. ask what the customers want.
      2. find or build that product.
      3. and give it to the customers.
      4. follow up for feedback and assistance.
    2. the selling process:
      1. built your product or service that is better than competitor and cannot be replacement products cannot be found easily.
      2. market your product to the right consumer group with the right message
      3. capture leads efficiently. meaning every calls or store and web visits generated from the marketing should be generated into a sell. this goal is not realistic but it is what you want.
      4. conducting the sell.
        1. if it is done by sales persons they should be adequately trained.
          1. sales person should learn by watching first. it could be in person training or video training or both.
          2. sales person should then internalize those material and put on paper.
          3. sales person should then practice either in person or on the phone
          4. at last sales person should be tested before going out to meet real customers.
        2. if it is done by the web the interface should be user friendly and process should be safe for consumers.
      5. after the sell call to ask clients whether they are satisfied with the products or services
      6. do every thing possible to keep repeat customers.
      7. ask for referrals from current customers.
    3. employees make everything happen so they should be treated well
      1. hire wisely
        1. when company is small hire the ones that fits your situation. you may not have the ability to hire the best yet.
        2. hire the best when your company has the ability to do so.
      2. compensate accordingly
        1. compensate according to individual contribution.
        2. also compensate according to group efforts.
      3. treat employees like family
    4. money should only be spent on three things
      1. getting new clients
      2. keeping existing clients
      3. keep employees happy
  5. exist: ultimately what do you want to do with your company?
    1. grow your own company by introducing great products and generate great profit and stay private.
    2. sell your company.
    3. Initial public offering.

  1. the Five Master Keys
    1. instruction
    2. Practice
    3. Surrender
    4. Intentionality
    5. The Edge
  2. Dealing With Change and Homeostasis
    1. Be aware of the way homeostasis works.
    2. Be willing to negotiate with your resistance to change.
    3. Develop a support system.
    4. Follow a regular practice.
    5. Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning.
  3. Getting Energy for Mastery
    1. Maintain physical fitness.
    2. Acknowledge the negative and accentuate the positive.
    3. Try telling the truth.
    4. Honor but don’t indulge your own dark side.
    5. Set your priorities.
    6. Make commitments Take action.
    7. Get on the path of mastery and stay on it.
  4. Pitfalls Along the Path
    1. Conflicting way of life
    2. Obsessive goal orientation
    3. Poor instruction
    4. Lack of competitiveness
    5. Competitiveness
    6. Injuries
    7. Drugs
    8. Prizes and medals
    9. Vanity
    10. Dead seriousness
    11. Inconsistency
    12. Perfectionism

had a great monthly follow up meeting with my great new friend Peter. From our past two sessions I felt a grounded sense of go-get-it attitude from Peter. it is a very energetic influence.

My friend Peter has just launched a great start up http://translate.weblite.ca/

Below is a little about this startup.  Take a look. It maybe the best thing ever for your company.

How it works

Web Lite’s state-of-the-art technology makes web site translation so simple you won’t even notice anything has changed – but your customers certainly will!

The process

  1. You copy & paste a tiny snippet of HTML code into your web pages that converts your pages into multiple languages seamlessly.
  2. Our professional translation team systematically translates all of the text in your website.
  3. You approve the resulting translations, and they appear on your website.

Features

Automatic Language Preference Detection
Chinese users will automatically see the Chinese language version of your website (if it has been translated into Chinese). Similarly, French see the French version, and English see the English version.
Changeable Language Settings
Your website will contain links to switch between different languages, so that users are still able to browse other translations of your web site.
Automatic Synchronization
Our servers will automatically detect when changes have been made to your original content. Need your changes re-translated? No problem. We can handle that.
Seamless integration
From the user’s perspective, the translation is hosted on your server. The URL is the same for the French, English, and Chinese version. The page is automatically displayed in the correct language, thanks to our unique translation layering technology.
  1. Be aware of the way homeostasis works.
  2. Be willing to negotiate with y our resistance to change.
  3. Develop a support system.
  4. Follow a regular practice.
  5. Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning.

Your body is a loan

October 2, 2008

Your body is a loan.

today somebody wanted me to comment on his poem. this is what i wrote to him.

“hey buddy. thank for stopping by my page.
you know. we don’t own our body. We just have temporary custody of it. You, me, him and her, no exception. Our spirit is the only thing that is lasting. Just like your mother’s spirit is forever too. You have use of your body now, just for your life time. it is a loan from God. Don’t waste it. Use it fully, never idle, never give up, always walk toward a dream. Say to yourself, “Live Today Full Out!” Ask yourself, “what if I did not give my all and become who I could have been?!” your mother gave you this opportunity to come to this earth, to be among us. To thank her and to show her that you care why don’t you make good use of your body amd mind and the temporary time you have on earth? Yes. you will sufer, yes. you will be beat down by obstacles, but with every setbacks you gain something for your spirit. You become wiser and you evolve, and you grow. We all have the right answer inside of us. I know you do too!”

Remember the darkest hours of your life is just before dawn. If you just push a little harder you will see the sun rise. Envision how beautiful it will be when it does come. Also know that it is not the end when you do succeed because you have higher meanings and goals to go after. That is why we cannot be complacent after we have succeeded. We will continue to push ourselves outside of the comfort zone and keep going back to that darkest place, to the darkest hours of dawn because we want to see the sunrise after each night.

Buying Homes in Ca

October 1, 2008

Searching for a home in Southern California might feel overwhelming. After all, Southern California is larger than the state of Rhode Island! But it’s not as big a job as it seems. I hear stories about people who spent months looking for their house, but it just doesn’t take that long because we all know what we truly need. The first step is to choose a city or an area that fits your goals and then finding a home is usually just a matter of a day or two. This may sound incredible, but I’ve done it many  times now, and I assure you, it just isn’t that hard to find a home in southern California once you’ve narrowed it down.

But first, there’s something you need to understand.

PRICE LOCATION

HOUSE

Consider the three boxes above. All of your housing requirements fall into one of these three boxes.

PRICE questions include:

How much down payment do I need?
What are the closing costs?
What is the asking price of the house?
What are the homeowner fees?
Is there a Mello-Roos tax?
What would my monthly payment be?

Here are some typical LOCATION questions:

How long of a commute is it to my work?

what is preferred in the neighborhood (college, beach)?

Is this a good neighborhood (Crime Rate)?
How are the schools in the neighborhood ?
What is the climate (inland vs. coastal)?
How much land (city vs. rural)?

Then there are requirements about the HOUSE itself:

How many bedrooms and baths does it have?
How many square feet?
Is it one or two story?
Does it have the amenities I want (air conditioning, pool, etc.)?
When was the house built?

OK, now here’s the point you have to get firmly in your mind:

You can have any two boxes you want,  but you can’t have all three.

Sometimes when I hear what people want and for what price, I have to tell them it’s impossible! Something has to give, either the house or the location or the price.

You see, if money’s no object, you can have whatever house you want, wherever you want it.

But if you have a price limit, then you can say “This is the kind of house I want, and this price, now tell me where I can get it.”

Or, you can say “I want to live in this area because of (fill in the blank), now find me the best house you can for my price.”

When you can say one of those two statements, then you’re ready to go house hunting.

Once you decide whether the house or the location is most important, the search becomes very manageable. With our computers we can select the properties that match what you’re looking for, and most likely see them all in one day.

If you’d like to do some searching on your own, see the Quick Overview of  lalife.com to get an idea for which communities to focus on (or rule out).  Then check out the  dqnews.com to see price change history.  Next, realtor.com will show you all of the homes for sale in Southern California’s Multiple Listing System.  This is a list of every house for sale by every broker. the data is a few days slower than the data in multiple listing database, but it is the most complete data base for general consumers.

The 21 Most Common Reasons Escrows Fall Apart & What You Can Do To Prevent It!

There’s probably thousands of reasons why real estate transactions fail, and describing them all would take a huge volume. In this small book I will focus on only the most common reasons, drawn from 15 years of experience and hundreds of transactions. I’m writing this so you can understand why things go wrong, and be able to successfully escape the traps.

Why are real estate transactions so complicated?

Why is there no consistency from one experience to the next? Why are so many people involved? These are good questions that address the root of many problems.

The main reason is that each transaction has a different group of people involved. Imagine you’re the coach of a baseball team, and for each game, a whole new set of players shows up on the field! That’s a good picture of how the real estate industry works.

Behind it is the Real Estate Settlement Procedures Act (RESPA), a well-meaning federal statute enacted in 1975. The intention was to separate all aspects of a real estate transaction (agency, lending, title, etc.) so that the consumer would have more choice, and there would be more competition in the marketplace.

A good idea, but the result is that each player is now disconnected from the others. Each player involved is a separate company, with its own way of doing business. The agent is like the symphony conductor trying to make music by bringing all these different instruments together.

But there’s no standards. No one who can say “this is how we do business here” and enforce that method across all the participants in the transaction. Customers today are demanding more convenience, more of a “one-stop-shopping” for the various services needed to complete a real estate transaction. But for now, our hands are tied by RESPA.

Solution: The government is currently examining outdated RESPA laws. In the meantime, if your agent has other vendors that he knows, trusts, and works well with, you should seriously consider using those people. Many times I’ve seen people pick an escrow company because they can save $50, and end up regretting that decision. That amount is peanuts compared to the extra expense and sheer aggravation of a delayed closing due to poor service.

The most important decision you will make is which real estate agent will represent you.

As I mentioned earlier, the agent is like the musical conductor, making sure all the people involved play their parts. The real estate agent, not the company he works for, is the person with whom you have to rely on to provide you the information regarding how all the other parts really work together to have a successful real estate transaction.

These are the major players that have to be coordinated by your agent:

  • Seller’s Agent
  • Buyer’s Agent
  • Seller(s)
  • Buyer(s)
  • REO Banks/Foreclosures
  • FHA, VA and HUD government departments
  • Loan Broker
  • Real Estate Appraiser
  • Termite Inspector
  • Home Inspector
  • Roof Inspector
  • Other Specialty Inspectors such as chimney/Engineering/Foundation/ Geological
  • City, State and Federal Departments (i.e., zoning, permits and real estate law issues)
  • Title Officer
  • Escrow Officer
  • Insurance Agents
  • Tax Accountant or CPA
  • Family, friends, relatives, co-workers and people with whom you talk

Since it’s not very hard to get a real estate license, we frequently see people “jump in” when the market is good. They think all they have to do is put a buyer and seller together and then the escrow company handles the rest! That’s like saying all the coach has to do is get the baseball players onto the field and everything happens automatically from then on. That’s where the real work begins!

I’ve also seen more “professionals” such as mortgage brokers or insurance agents telling consumers that they also have a real estate license so they can “help” you buy or sell a house. Many agents “try” the business for awhile, bungle a few transactions for people they know, then quit. This gives all agents a bad reputation!

You should think seriously before hiring a new agent or someone who only works at it part time, or whose interests are divided. How can they possibly keep up with all the changes in the law? How can they stay on top of the market? Will they spend the money to get the latest tools and technology working in your favor? The bottom line is this… if they haven’t been in the business long, then they haven’t done enough transactions to represent you properly. Let the new guys make their mistakes on someone else… your transaction is too important.

Solution: Hire an agent who is a Certified Residential Specialist (CRS). This professional designation is awarded those agents who have at least 5 years experience, have completed over 75 transactions, and have taken almost a solid month of extra education to serve you better. Only 3% of all agents have this designation.

Your past transactions are no guide to your next one.

Buyer(s) and/or Seller(s) should take the time to educate themselves regarding the entire process. Usually, one or both of the principals in the transaction don’t understand certain parts of the process. Then, when the agent says that something should be done a certain way, the principal (buyer/seller) says, “that’s not the way I heard it should be done” or “when I sold my house in Virginia 20 years ago, I didn’t have to let the buyer inspect the property this way” or “I shouldn’t have to do this or pay for this”. The laws and real estate customary practices ARE CHANGING CONSTANTLY.

In the last 10 to 12 years, real estate practices and laws have changed from “let the buyer beware” to “buyer consumer protection”. More and more, the sellers are having to disclose more and become responsible for more. When you hire a real estate agent, you must learn to trust that the agent knows what he is doing and that the agent will act in your best interests. If you don’t understand the reasons why things are being done, you must either have the agent explain the process to you or take the time to learn about it yourself. Ideally, this should be done before you “dig in your heels” and say something like, “I’m not doing this or that”.

Solution: Read up on how to buy or sell real estate in this current market by getting a copy of our “Preferred Buyer Handbook” or “Home Seller’s Handbook.” These contain the latest information, strategies, and “street-smart” advice, and were written by me personally. No “one size fits all” useless information about basements and other Eastern stuff in these handbooks. Just straight talk about how to make the easiest purchase or sale ever. Give me a call at my office and I’ll be happy to send you a copy.

Buyer has liens against him (known or unknown).

These are “skeletons in the closet” that come out when someone decides to buy a house. Did you know that when a father doesn’t pay his child support, a “Revenue and Recovery” lien is recorded against him? Then when that person goes to buy real estate, out of the closet it jumps! The buyer may not have known about it, or may not have known it would affect his purchase. Other liens include IRS liens, judgments for non-payment of rent, and many more!

Solution: Every buyer should have a search run on himself for recorded liens. This is done by filling out a “Statement of Information” or SI. Most agents will ask you to do this at the last minute, almost as an afterthought, and then the transaction blows up in everyone’s faces. Why not do it up front and avoid a lot of hassle and pain? If you’re serious about buying a home, ask your agent to run your SI as soon as you start looking. If you’re a seller, get that SI from your potential buyer as early as possible in the transaction.

Buyer cannot get financing.

There are a multitude of sins that can show themselves when the buyer asks a bank for HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS of dollars. People take this lightly sometimes, but let me ask you a question… what kind of documentation would YOU require of someone before you gave them that kind of money?

A lender requires a credit report, proof of down payment, and proof of income sufficient to pay the mortgage. All of this information needs to be verified before a lender will loan the money.

Here’s some of the things that can go wrong:

  • Black marks (derogatories) on the credit report, real or mistaken.
  • Relatives were going to give the down payment, and changed their minds.
  • Buyer’s income can’t be proven, is “under the table”.
  • Buyer has money, but can’t prove where it came from (not “seasoned”).

Solution: There’s no reason that these problems have to surface while in escrow. A buyer should be “pre-approved” for his loan BEFORE shopping for a home. This means that all that’s left to do is an appraisal on the house before the lender will loan the money. If you are a seller, you should insist on “pre-approval” from a buyer before you take your home off the market for any length of time.

Keep in mind that “prequalified” is not the same as “pre-approval”. “Prequalified” means that the buyer spent a few minutes on the phone with a lender who asked a few questions. Based on the answers, the lender pronounces the buyer “prequalified” and issues a certificate. Smart sellers are now aware that such certificates are WORTHLESS because none of the information has been verified.

There’s just no reason for a buyer NOT to get pre-approved. In the best case, this can be done in ONE HOUR! Show a W-2, a current pay stub, a bank account where the down payment is, and run a credit report. Done! Some pre-approvals take longer, but in any case it’s better to wait a bit before finding a home you love than to lose it because of financing problems in escrow.

The buyer screws up financing after being approved.

Things can change during the escrow period, usually not for the better, which is why we always shoot for the shortest escrow possible.

Some things can’t be prevented, for example, the buyer loses his job. No amount of professionalism on my part can do anything about that… the transaction is dead.

On the other hand, sometimes mistakes are made out of ignorance, for example, the buyer figures he has his home loan approved, so he runs out and buys a new car! The lender never told him that would screw up his “debt to income” ratio and now he can’t get the loan.

My point here is that things can go wrong even with “pre-approved” buyers. Education can help avoid mistakes made out of ignorance, but sometimes things happen that are outside of anyone’s control.

The buyer demands too many repairs.

Most contracts have a seller warranty/maintenance clause. In most cases, there are some things that the seller is obligated to fix, for example, leaking roofs or broken windows.

But the buyer should realize that there is no perfect house, not even a new house, or a house you build yourself. I’ve had new homes, and I’ve built two homes myself, and I guarantee you this is true. Even people who buy million dollar homes go in and change things.

How much the buyer can demand in repairs is going to be different for each transaction. It depends on whether you’re in a seller’s or a buyer’s market, and the motivation and financial situation of each buyer and seller.

Buyers and sellers should keep an eye on the big picture and try not to focus on the details. It’s ridiculous to lose a half million dollar investment over an oven knob, but it happens. Sometimes a small thing is “the straw that broke the camel’s back” and infuriates the seller to the point that logic flies out the window and emotions take over. Why risk it?

Solution: The buyer needs to be sure he understands what the contract says, what’s part of the seller warranty clause, and what is not.

At the same time, the seller should be aware that at the very least he will have to fix the items included in the seller warranty/maintenance clause. Mentally, a seller should set aside several thousand dollars to repair problems or defects discovered during escrow. A much better way to control these expenses is for the seller to have all the property inspections completed BEFORE the property is placed on the market. That takes the guesswork out of it.

Buyers listen to others and not their agent.

Buyers will always have some “well meaning” friend, relative or associate who will create doubt in the buyers’ minds. Sometimes they will “buckle” under the pressure and try to back out of a transaction. Such “advice” is usually wrong, and does not take into account the current realities of the marketplace.

Another source of misleading information is the newspaper. Real estate articles in the newspaper are used as “filler” to make up for lack of advertising. I’ve seen articles geared to a buyer’s market appear when we’re in the middle of a seller’s market! I think somebody at the paper reaches into a drawer marked “real estate articles” and just prints any old one. Believing what you read in the paper can be hazardous to your financial health!

The seller has no equity.

A transaction can fail if the seller cannot financially hold up their end of the bargain. If equity is tight, and the agent didn’t calculate the seller’s expenses accurately, the seller can be short on closing costs or money for necessary repairs.

Solution: This situation could have been avoided if the seller had done his homework before putting the house on the market, such as termite, physical, hazards inspections, and a title search. Oddly enough, most agents don’t recommend these inspections ahead of time. They’re thrilled to get the listing, so why do anything to jeopardize it? So they do nothing and just hope everything will work out later.

The seller’s job transfer didn’t go through.

This is one of those “out of the blue” events that you can’t guard against. Most people have heard of transactions failing because the BUYER lost his job, but the same kinds of tragedies can happen to the SELLER. Other examples are death, bankruptcies or other lawsuits (“liz pendens”) tying up the property so that it cannot be sold.

The other agent does not do their job.

The other real estate agent in the transaction might be a part-time agent, out-of-town agent or a “full-time” agent who does very little business and they ACT LIKE THEY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING, WHEN THEY DON’T KNOW! Generally, I’m forced to “stroke these agents egos” so that they don’t mess up the transaction and protect my clients rights at the same time. It is a difficult balance to maintain because there are usually tough points in the transaction where I have to try to figure out the best way to keep the transaction together accounting for the fact that the agent is either ignorant or incompetent.

Usually, this problem is compounded by the fact that everyone is becoming emotionally frustrated. The best advice I can give when this occurs is to remember the primary objective is to move on with your life and get this transaction closed. Therefore, keep calm and just understand that we can’t change an incompetent agent. Let’s just be flexible and deal with the problems as they come up.

If the other agent in the transaction is either lazy or disorganized, this means that I will have to pick up the slack. I will have to force the process to become as organized as possible without letting the other agent know that I’m compensating for his or her lack of professionalism or laziness. No one likes to be told that he is disorganized or lazy.

I may have to “dance around” these fragile egos so that the transaction can keep moving forward with as few problems as possible. But don’t worry, I’ve done it many times before.

Seller discovers title problems.

There are so many things that “pop up” during the preliminary title search that create a “cloud” on the title. Many times things show up such as mechanics liens, unrecorded easements, faulty trust documents, and judgments that can prevent the property from being transferred. Even if you didn’t have a problem when you purchased the property, I’ve seen problems surface because of new technology that was not available in previous years.

The only way to solve these issues is to open up escrow when the home is put on the market and obtain a preliminary title report. The seller must also fill out a “Statement of Information” (SI) to check for recorded judgments against them. Then, do all the things necessary to be able to clear these things up before a buyer makes an offer.

If a seller does obtain a preliminary title report and the buyer does not use the title company that the seller used to obtain the preliminary title report, the seller may be required to pay a $300 to $350 cancellation fee. Most of the time the buyers will accommodate the seller by using the same title company. Therefore, it makes sense to start doing all the preliminary title work as soon as the house is put on the market.

Buyer is unable to get fire insurance.

Thanks to the earthquakes and fires in California, insurance companies are taking steps to limit their exposure in any one area. This means that when they’ve sold a certain amount of fire policies in any geographical area, they stop writing them. There’s nothing wrong or risky about the area, just that they don’t want to have too many policies in one place.

Years ago, we would get the fire insurance a couple of days before closing escrow, no big deal. Nowadays the buyer should start looking for insurance as soon as he opens escrow. It may take a bit of shopping to find an acceptable price for fire insurance.

Termite report is unacceptable to buyer or seller.

A termite report is really a “Wood Destroying Pests & Organisms Report” and includes wood damage by termites and a fungus called dry rot. In order for the buyer to get a home loan, the house must be free of termites and dry rot.

Here’s what usually happens – the seller has found a buyer and has negotiated an acceptable bottom line figure. Then he opens escrow and must do a termite inspection. The bid comes in and he has a fit! It’s way more than expected, and his bottom line is out the window!

Then the seller decides to get a second opinion, because that bid can’t possibly be right. The second termite inspector finds things the first one missed, and the bid is even higher! However, the buyer will see BOTH reports, because they are on file with the Structural Pest Control Board in Sacramento. The seller is worse off than before, and if there’s no money left to do the repairs, the whole transaction could unravel.

Solution: The seller should do a termite inspection as soon as he decides to sell, and BEFORE an offer comes in. This avoids unwanted surprises after negotiating a price, because all the expenses are known.

In fact, he should have the work done that’s recommended in the inspection. If it’s done before the house sells, the seller can possibly save some money. For example, I’ve seen the case where the house had a wood deck down the whole side of the house that was completely rotten. The seller was able to replace it with gravel and stepping stones for minimal cost, before putting the house on the market. Had a buyer seen the wood deck, he would have bought the house expecting the wood deck. When the termite report came in, the seller would have had to replace the entire deck with new wood at considerable expense.

Another benefit of having the work done before selling is that the place will look better. When I’m working with buyers, especially first time buyers, I have to explain to them that the rotten wood they see will be replaced before they move in. But how many other agents didn’t explain this? How many possible buyers didn’t make an offer on the house because they thought “I don’t want to buy a house with rotten wood and do all that work”?

If you’re a seller, you’re going to have to do the termite repairs anyway, so why not do it sooner rather than later? You’ll avoid surprises, and probably see more dollars in your pocket.

The home inspection company is too picky

or the seller refuses to make reasonable repairs. After escrow has been opened, the buyer will hire someone to do a “physical inspection” to check out the house. Think about that for a minute… it’s like negotiating a price for a used car, and THEN having it checked out by a auto mechanic. What do you think will happen after it’s checked out? You’re right – it’s back to the negotiating table, because there are things wrong with the car that you didn’t know when you decided on a price. That’s doing it backwards you say? But this is normal in real estate transactions.

Anyway, the buyer hires someone to do a physical inspection. I’ve seen the wrong inspector destroy a transaction by scaring the buyer out of their wits. A first time buyer is making a big step and is already nervous, we don’t need an overzealous inspector terrifying him. Of course the inspector must call it as he sees it, and I would never advocate anything less than full disclosure of all facts. Never should anything be hidden from the buyer.

But no house is perfect, and the building codes 10 years ago were different than today’s. When you buy a house, it must be in good condition FOR IT’S AGE. The smoke detectors, GFIs, spaces between railings, etc., must be to code AT THE TIME THE HOUSE WAS BUILT. It is unreasonable to expect a 10 year old home to be like a new one. If serious problems are discovered, these are definitely a cause for concern. But I’ve seen transactions fail over normal wear cycles in the appliances, just because things were communicated poorly.

The home seller must also be prepared mentally for there to be some repairs, and to not unreasonably refuse to fix anything. I know that the seller thinks nothing is wrong with his “castle”, but most people don’t use everything in their homes. Some people never use the dishwasher, and then we discover that all the rubber is rotten from lack of use. Or many people with two ovens only use one of them, and then find out the other doesn’t work. This can happen to you, so be prepared to do some repairs!

The best way for a seller not to be surprised by these repairs is to do the inspection himself, before selling the house. That’s being proactive rather than reactive. When the report is done up front, the seller can benefit in the following ways:

A. Price the property based on “actual knowledge” of the true condition of the house. You are less likely to be surprised by the fact that the furnace is cracked, the fireplace box needs to be re-built, or an electrical box has been improperly wired.

B. Get repairs done more economically because you have the option to downgrade the materials used from the most expensive grade to an acceptable standard grade of materials. Also, you will have time to get competitive bids on the work, and not be “under the gun” and have to hire the contractors who can get the work done quickly even though they cost more.

C. Obtain cost estimates of the major items indicated in the report that the seller will not be able to or is unwilling to repair. Buyers usually have no idea what things cost, and will inflate the expenses in their minds. Having a written estimate of the work goes a long way in bringing the numbers back down to earth.

D. Strengthen your negotiating position by providing the reports to the buyer before the buyer writes the offer. Therefore, a buyer is less likely to ask you to repair any items if you indicate that you are pricing the property based on estimated repairs that are indicated in the inspection reports.

E. From a legal standpoint, protect yourself when selling your home because you are disclosing everything that you know about the property. With your own real estate transfer disclosure plus the other inspection reports, you are less likely to be found liable for hiding facts which could material effect the desirability or value of the property from a buyer’s standpoint.

So why would a seller NOT do the inspection before selling? Easy – because they don’t want to spend the money. But for a few hundred dollars, you can save thousands and protect yourself and family at the same time.

The appraisal takes too long or comes in too low.

This happens more often in a seller’s market where prices are going up. If you think about it, each house sells for more than the one before it… and yet the ones before it are the houses that appraisers use to determine value. They are looking at what happened in the past to decide today’s value, and that’s the problem. Most appraisers know this, and “build in” appreciation when deciding on a current value. But how much appreciation is a judgment call, and sometimes an appraiser will estimate on the low side.

When the appraisal comes in low, the seller can reduce the price, the buyer can put a larger down payment, or both parties can split the difference. If there’s plenty of time, perhaps the buyer can try a different lender and get a different appraiser.

Another problem surfaces in a hot market when appraisers are swamped with business. The problem is that it takes forever to get an appraisal! What used to take a day now takes a week. So where it used to take 3 days to get an appraiser out to the property, now it takes three weeks. This could be a serious problem if escrow needs to close at a certain time, for example to keep a locked-in interest rate on a loan. The only solution here is to order the appraisal IMMEDIATELY after opening escrow. I’ve seen lenders wait two weeks before ordering the appraisal because “the buyer didn’t send in the check.” Make sure this gets taken care of right away or expensive delays could result.

Buyer rejects the association documents.

Many properties are part of a homeowner’s association, or maybe more than one association. The buyer of the property will need to be given a copy of the association documents and approve them. The documents include:

Covenants, Codes, & Restrictions (“CC&Rs”) – the rules and regulations homeowners must abide by

Minutes – what was talked about at the most recent association meetings

Financials – the association budget, money set aside for future repairs (“reserves”), etc.

Since the buyer can kill the transaction by disapproving the association documents, it makes sense to get them into his hands as soon as possible, doesn’t it? It’s the seller’s job to give the MOST RECENT documents to the buyer. This means that the seller cannot simply dig them out of the attic and give the buyer the documents from when he bought the house. He has to buy a new set from the association.

Now the association, depending on its size, may or may not get to this as quickly as we would like. We’ve seen associations take 3 or 4 weeks to get the documents out. That means that at the last minute, the escrow can fail if the buyer is spooked by the association documents.

Solution: sellers should get the latest documents from their association BEFORE opening escrow. The documents can be handed to the buyer as soon a purchase agreement is reached, eliminating that contingency. Why don’t sellers do this? Because it costs money to pay for the documents. If the seller didn’t get the documents ahead of time, the buyer should make sure they’re ordered immediately after opening escrow.

Escrow officer doesn’t follow through.

We’ve already talked about some of the documents that are critical to a transaction, such as the SIs, the CC&Rs, title report, termite report, association documents, etc. The escrow officer is responsible for making sure these are taken care of, but sometimes it doesn’t get done in a timely manner. For example, the SI might be sent in for a judgment check, but the escrow officer “assumes” that since nobody said anything, it must be OK. These kinds of assumptions can really come back to haunt you.

Everything must be followed up on to see that it gets done, and every disclosure, approval, report, and document must be in our file before the escrow can close. So the bottom line is that your agent is the one who is ultimately responsible for everything, and if the escrow officer is slow, incompetent, or too busy, your agent must pick up the slack so that your interests are protected.

We’ve just had a situation where escrow said the title company didn’t do what they were supposed to, and the title company blamed the escrow company. No one wants to accept the blame when something goes wrong because people want to save face and not be held liable for their mistakes. So we’ll never really know what happened there. But we have learned over the years not to depend on anyone, but to check everything ourselves.

The potential for mistakes is greater when escrow companies are very busy, such as in a hot market. There’s no time to handle everything, and no time to train people to help. What happens then is that “crises” are handled first, and your file ends up on the bottom. After all, you’re not closing for a couple of weeks yet, right? But since you’ve read this far, you understand that handling things ahead of time is exactly how you prevent a crisis later. So by putting things off to the last minute, you’re almost GUARANTEED to have a crisis of your very own. It’s your agent’s job to stay on top of all the players in the transaction and to make sure your important transaction doesn’t end up at the bottom of someone’s pile.

Lender does the old “bait and switch”.

There are many ways things can go wrong with the loan. Interest rates can go up, the mortgage insurance premium (PMI) can be more than the buyer expected, or the loan program can disappear. The fact is, unless the buyer “locks” his loan rate, anything can happen. Why don’t buyers lock in their rates? Again, because it usually costs money to do it. And there are some unscrupulous lenders out there who will tell you one thing when you first meet and then change it at the last minute, knowing that you’re too far along to change lenders.

By the way, since interest rates will change from the time you talk to a lender until the time you actually close, how in the world can you pick a lender based on rates? You should choose a lender based on whether you trust him and believe he has your best interests in mind.

Lender is not a mortgage banker.

What’s the difference between a mortgage banker and a mortgage broker? A mortgage broker takes your application, and then brings it to the wholesale department of any lender he chooses. In this way, you don’t have to make applications at several lending institutions. You just apply once, and then your lender takes it to whatever bank has the best deal at the time.

A mortgage banker lends their own money. You fill out the application, the loan officer walks down the hall to the underwriter, and you can actually have loan approval in about an hour!

The advantage of using a mortgage banker is control. Everything is done in house, so the loan officer can “pull strings” or do whatever it takes to get your loan through. If there’s a problem with your loan, he walks down the hall and talks to the underwriter and straightens it out. In contrast, the mortgage broker who takes your loan to a bank is out of control. The bank puts those loans at the bottom of the pile. The loan officer can do nothing but wait. I’ve seen this happen more times that I care to remember. It’s no fun at all waiting for weeks past when you thought you were going to move into your new home because the bank hasn’t gotten to your file yet! All you can do is wait while the bank takes care of all their “in-house” loans first.

When the market is busy, like it is now, this can be a critical issue. Having your closing delayed can cost you much more than you thought you were going to save. And what about the “bait and switch”? If the bank pulls this trick, the loan officer is powerless to do anything – he’s not part of that organization, and can’t go to the boss and plead your case. You’re out of control, and that’s a terrible situation to be in.

Paperwork is not handled in a timely manner.

There can be delays and hang-ups by any of the parties in the transaction. Usually we’re dealing with a low-paid person who can care less that your transaction is critical. For example, the termite inspector does his inspection quickly, but then drops it off on this clerical person’s desk to type it up and mail it out. And there it sits. Then she goes on vacation, and we’re still waiting.

Much of our job is following up with these people to make sure things get done when they’re supposed to. We can’t assume anything, because we’re talking about hundreds of thousands of your dollars here. So we keep calling until we get what we need. Sometimes people have even gotten angry with us for insisting that they do their jobs. “I’ll get around to it” isn’t good enough. That’s how things get screwed up.

Even the buyer and seller can be slow on returning their paperwork. They’ll get a package from escrow and drop it on the dining room table. “I’ll get around to it” they think to themselves. If it wasn’t important, then escrow wouldn’t have sent it to you! Many times critical issues and deadlines are passed because the paperwork is sitting on the table.

Contrary to popular opinion, escrow is not opened when two parties come to an agreement. Escrow is officially opened when escrow has signed instructions from both parties. The seller needs to know that the buyer’s deposit money is not held in escrow until there is an escrow to hold it in! So they go for weeks into a transaction without sending in the escrow instructions, not knowing that there isn’t a dime of the buyer’s deposit holding the transaction together. The buyer can walk away at any time, for no reason at all, and escrow can’t do a thing about it.

In a real estate transaction, “time is of the essence”. This means that all paperwork, reports, and disclosures need to be done as soon as possible. Nothing good can happen by waiting. As time goes on, people become more and more committed to the move. The pain is much less if the transaction falls apart sooner rather than later. So we put a lot of effort into getting things done sooner.

Buying a house from a bank doesn’t work like buying a house from a private party. But if you know the differences, a bank owned property can be an excellent opportunity. Here’s what I’ve learned from representing many buyers in purchasing bank owned properties.

Short Sales vs. REO

REO – stands for Real Estate Owned, and is another way to refer to a bank owned property. This is property that the bank has taken back through foreclosure. Sometimes a seller who is behind in his payments will attempt to sell his house before it goes into foreclosure. To do this, you must negotiate with the bank to accept less than what is owed on the property, and this is known as a short sale. This report describes purchasing REO properties, not a short sale which is altogether different.

Exempt From Transfer Disclosure

Whenever anyone sells a house in California, he must by law give the buyer a Transfer Disclosure Statement (TDS). This document describes what is included in the house, what is broken, and other legal and environmental disclosures. The seller has to tell you about any defects he knows about, especially if they are hidden and you might not see them. The seller can be held liable for defects that appear later that were not disclosed when you bought the house.

The exception to this law is an REO. Banks are exempt from giving you a TDS. For this reason it is absolutely imperative that you do a thorough inspection with a licensed and bonded contractor before purchasing any REO. You must be extra diligent in all your inspections, because you have no recourse after you buy it.

Verbal Counters

After the initial offer is made in writing, counter offers are made verbally until agreement is reached. This is a slow process because the bank may be in a different time zone, or the responsible people are tied up in meetings. It may be many days of verbal countering before a final agreement is signed by all parties. During that time, there is a danger that another offer will come in better than yours and the bank may accept it. This is especially likely to happen if negotiations go over a weekend. So my advice is: try to reach agreement with the minimum amount of counters.

Higher Deposits

A bank will require a higher good faith deposit than a private party would. Expect to write a check for 3% to 5% of the purchase price when making an offer on an REO.

Double Loan Applications

The bank will probably require that you get prequalified with their institution within a few days of accepting your offer. They naturally want to cut their losses on the property by making a new loan on it. You will need to go through the loan application process with them, even if you get the loan somewhere else. While they can ask you to apply with them, no one can tell you where to get a loan. That is your choice entirely.

Bank Chooses Services

The bank will insist on an escrow and title company that they choose. They have previously negotiated fees with these companies, so they know what their expenses will be. You would think that to get the business of these giant banks, these escrow companies must be really good. But you would be wrong! They get the business by charging less, and the service is often substandard. Many times the agents do the job of the escrow officer. For this reason, it’s most important to choose a REALTOR who is willing to work harder than normal to make sure you get the house you want.

Not The Usual Contract

The bank will use their contract, not the standard California Association of Realtors form. It’s critical that your agent read every word of this contract to make sure your interests are protected. Remember the bank’s attorneys who wrote the contract are representing the bank, not you.

Double Check Everything

I’ve found that listing agents and escrows for the banks are overloaded with work. Repairs may get ordered, but there is seldom a follow up to see that the work was done. Your agent must take it upon himself to double check everything and assume nothing. When you buy an REO, make sure you select an agent that represents you and not the bank. Select an agent that has experience working with banks and is not afraid of some extra work so you’re protected.

Good luck and may you find an excellent bargain that’s just right for you!

Insider Secrets To Winning The Home Buying Race

Markets are always changing, and my strategies cannot be used at all times and in all markets. That’s why there is no substitute for having a one-on-one meeting with a good agent. Then you can get true real-time advice for your specific situation.

The following article was written during a hot seller’s market, but even if you’re in a buyer’s market, certain properties seem to generate a lot of interest and so it’s really a “seller’s market” for that house. And that might be the one you have your eye on! So these tips will help you in any market.


The past couple of months have been frustrating to many hopeful home buyers. There’s too few homes available, and the good ones are snapped up in a hurry!

A couple of months ago I was in a situation where we made an offer on a home my clients wanted to buy, but someone else got it! I was disappointed and frustrated, and so were they! And after this happened to me several times I was getting downright angry!

So I decided to do something about it. I figured out what it would take to get offers accepted in this crazy seller’s market, and put my strategies to the test. The result was that my next 4 offers were accepted, beating out all the other buyers that were bidding on the same homes! Yes!

Here’s what I’ve learned about how to succeed in this kind of market. I call these rules “The Seven Seller’s Market Strategies!”

RULE #1 – PRE-APPROVAL

Do you want to get the best house you can for the least amount of money? Then make sure you are in the strongest negotiating position possible. You see, price is only one bargaining chip in the negotiations, and not necessarily the most important one. Often other terms, such as the strength of the buyer or the length of escrow, are critical to a seller.

In years past, I always recommended that buyers get “prequalified” by a lender. This means that you spend a few minutes on the phone with a lender who asks you a few questions. Based on the answers, the lender pronounces you “prequalified” and issues a certificate that you can show to a seller.

Sellers are now aware that such certificates are WORTHLESS, and here’s why! None of the information has been verified! Oftentimes unknown problems surface! Some of the problems I’ve seen include recorded judgments, child support payments due, glitches on the credit report due to any number of reasons both accurately and inaccurately, down payments that have not been in the clients’ bank account long enough, etc.

So the way to make a strong offer today is to get “pre-approved”. This happens AFTER all information has been checked and verified. You are actually APPROVED for the loan, the only loose end is the appraisal on the property you want to buy. This process takes anywhere from a few days to a few weeks depending on your situation. Now it’s like having cash to take to the seller! In a situation where the sellers have several offers to choose from, they will choose the offer from a buyer that’s PRE-APPROVED.

RULE #2 – BETTER THAN DAILY SEARCH

When you first start looking, it’s possible that there will be nothing available that you like. So then what? Your agent should then begin hunting for you and watching for new listings that match what you’re looking for. How often should your agent check? At the bare minimum once and day, and preferably more.

I once saw a new listing first thing in the morning, and called my clients to meet me at the house at 9:00AM. When we got there, we found out an offer was coming in at 9:30! If your agent only checks listings at the end of the day, this one would have been sold already.

That’s why we offer our exclusive Preferred Buyer Search program. This is a computer program that alerts me whenever there is a new house on the market that meets your requirements. I’ll fax, email, or call you immediately with the information. You’ll be there before other buyers even know about it!

RULE #3 – SUPER SPEED

As soon as a listing hits the market, it becomes a race. Who can get there the fastest? In this market, you need to be prepared to drop everything, leave work, or do whatever it takes to go see a property. It sounds extreme, but I’m very serious about this. Time is of the essence. Don’t think that you’ll take a look at it this weekend. It could be sold by tonight.

And be prepared to make an offer on the spot. That means bring your checkbook and be mentally ready to make a decision. I have a FAX machine in my car to communicate the offer immediately.  Many times I’ve sewn up an offer for my clients, and then another offer comes in ten minutes later. The race belongs to the swift.

RULE #4 – NO COUNTER OFFER

When we make an offer, we’ll make it with the intention that the seller will accept it. We don’t want to get a counter if at all possible. If the seller counters us, then there’s a very good chance another offer will come in before we can accept the counter.

For this reason, we try to make the offer as palatable as possible so the seller can accept it right away. This means we give the sellers their choice of services, avoid all contingencies, and steer clear of any terms or conditions out of the ordinary. I used to think that by trying to get “a little extra” out of the sellers for my clients, I was doing a good job for them. And in the past, that idea worked. But try that now and you lose the house altogether.

At first I struggled with this, and I felt that by giving the seller everything they were asking for, I wasn’t being a very good negotiator for my buyers. But I got over it. Doing a great negotiation and losing the house isn’t good service. Telling the truth about what it takes to win in this market is the kind of service you want.

RULE #5 – THE PRICE

Better sit down for this one. The asking price used to be the price the seller hoped to get, and the one that offered closest to that price bought the house. That’s no longer true. Now the asking price is the MINIMUM price, the base price to begin making offers. It’s the minimum bid if you will, the starting price at the auction. Make no mistake, for a hot property in a hot location, there will be multiple offers, and they will be more than the asking price.

RULE #6 – BEST OFFER

I lost a property for a buyer client of mine by offering less than the asking price. We were the only offer, so why not? As it turned out, by the time we submitted the offer and were able to present it to the seller another offer came in. The seller countered both of us with the same price. We accepted, and so did the other buyer. The sellers accepted the other buyer’s offer over ours, even though they were both for the same price. Why, you ask? Because the other buyer’s offer was higher than ours originally.

So the next time I was in a multiple offer situation, we made a very strong offer right off the bat. The other offer was lower than ours, but the seller countered us both, and we both accepted. In other words, the other buyer came up to our price. So now the seller was looking at two identical offers. They chose ours. Why? Because our offer was better to begin with.

Now I know that this makes no sense. The bottom line is the same, so why does it matter whose offer was better originally? I have no idea why this works, but it does. So we don’t fight it, we use it to our advantage.

RULE #7 – THE BIG PICTURE

Now I know that all this sounds like we’re rolling over and playing dead for the seller. We’re giving them everything they want, and then more. But we’ll have the last laugh. We’ll be laughing because we bought a great house in a rising market, beating out the other buyers! Is it really a big deal to pay a couple thousand more when the house will be worth 20 or 30 thousand more next year?

Our market is appreciating around 10% a year right now. That means that if you don’t buy the house and it takes you a month to find another one, the price will be a few thousand higher anyway. So are you really paying too much? It’s all in how you frame it in your mind. Don’t think you’re losing when you pay over the asking price, you’re actually winning. Next year you’ll look back and say what a genius you were for making such a smart move.

Don’t Get “Pre-Qualified!”

Do you want to get the best house you can for the least amount of money? Then make sure you are in the strongest negotiating position possible. You see, price is only one bargaining chip in the negotiations, and not necessarily the most important one. Often other terms, such as the strength of the buyer or the length of escrow, are critical to a seller.

In years past, I always recommended that buyers get “prequalified” by a lender. This means that you spend a few minutes on the phone with a lender who asks you a few questions. Based on the answers, the lender pronounces you “prequalified” and issues a certificate that you can show to a seller.

Sellers are aware that such certificates are WORTHLESS, and here’s why! None of the information has been verified! Oftentimes unknown problems surface! Some of the problems I’ve seen include recorded judgments, child support payments due, glitches on the credit report due to any number of reasons both accurately and inaccurately, down payments that have not been in the clients’ bank account long enough, etc.

So the way to make a strong offer today is to get “pre-approved”. This happens AFTER all information has been checked and verified. You are actually APPROVED for the loan, the only loose end is the appraisal on the property you want to buy. This process takes anywhere from a few days to a few weeks depending on your situation. It’s VERY POWERFUL and a weapon I recommend all my clients have in their negotiating arsenal.

Sell First, Then Buy

If you have a house to sell, sell it before selecting a house to buy! I haven’t seen a contingent sale work in the last 5 years, unless it’s with a new home builder who has other houses to sell and can afford to put one on a contingency.

Let’s pretend that we go out looking for the perfect house for you. We find it and you love it! Now you have to go make an offer to the seller. You want the seller to reduce the price and wait until you sell your house. The seller figures that’s a risky deal, since he might pass up a buyer who DOESN’T have to sell a house while he’s waiting for you. So he says OK, he’ll do the contingency but it has to be a full price offer! So you see, you paid more for the house than you could have because of the contingency.

Now you have to sell your existing house, and in a hurry! Otherwise you lose the dream house! So to sell quickly you might take an offer that’s lower than if you had more time. The bottom line is that buying before selling might cost you TENS OF THOUSANDS of dollars. I always recommend that you sell first, then buy.

If you’re concerned that there’s not a house out there for you, then go on a window shopping trip. You can identify possible houses and locations without falling in love with a specific house. If you feel confident after that, then put your house on the market.

Another tactic is to make the sale “subject to seller finding suitable housing”. Adding this phrase to the listing means that WHEN YOU DO FIND A BUYER, you will have some time to find the new place. If you don’t find anything to your liking, you don’t have to sell your present home.

Play the Game of Nines

Before house hunting, make a list of nine things you want in the new place. Then make a list of the nine things you don’t want. I call this “NINE OF THIS AND NONE OF THAT”. You can use this list as a scorecard to rate each property that you see. The one with the biggest score wins! This helps avoid confusion and keeps things in perspective when you’re comparing dozens of homes.

When house hunting, keep in mind the difference between “SKIN AND BONES”. The BONES are things that cannot be changed such as the location, view, size of lot, noise in the area, school district, and floor plan. The SKIN represents easily changed surface finishes like carpet, wallpaper, color, and window coverings. Buy the house with good BONES, because the SKIN can always be changed to match your tastes. I always recommend that you imagine each house as if it were vacant. Consider each house on its underlying merits, not the seller’s decorating skills.

Don’t Be Pushed Into Any House

Your real estate agent should show you everything available that meets your requirements. Don’t make a decision on a house until you feel that you’ve seen enough to pick the best one. Go to the Multiple Listing computer with your agent to make sure that you are getting a COMPLETE list.

Don’t forget to check into the SCHOOL DISTRICTS of the area you’re considering. Information is available on every school, such as class sizes, % of students that go on to college, SAT scores, etc. You can get this information from your agent or directly from the school.

Stop Calling Ads!

A word of caution – real estate agents create ads solely to make the phone ring! Many of the homes have some drawback that’s not mentioned in the ad, such as traffic noise, power lines, or litigation in the community. What’s not mentioned in the ad is usually more important than what is.

For this reason, I want you to be very careful when reading ads. Remember that the person writing the ad is representing the seller and not you! The most important thing you can do is have someone on your side looking out for your best interests. Your own agent will critique the property with an eye towards how well it meets your needs and will point out any drawbacks you should know about.

So whether you decide to work with me or not, pick an agent you feel comfortable with and enlist the services of that agent as a buyer’s broker. Then you become a client with all the rights, benefits, and privileges created by this agency relationship, and you’re no longer just a shopper.

Did you know that many homes are sold WITHOUT A SIGN ever going up or an AD EVER BEING PUT IN THE PAPER? These “great deals” go to those people who are committed to working with one agent. When an agent hears of a great buy, who do you think he’s going to call? His client, who he has a legal obligation to work hard for, or someone who just called on the phone and said “keep your eyes open”? So to get the best buy on a property, I always recommend that you hire your own agent and stick with him.

Typical Closing Cost (repost)

September 24, 2008

Real property in most jurisdictions is conveyed from the seller to the buyer through a real estate contract. The point in time at which the contract is actually executed and the title to the property is conveyed to the buyer is known as the “closing”. It is common for a variety of costs associated with the transaction (above and beyond the price of the property itself) to be incurred by either the buyer or the seller. These costs are typically paid at the closing, and are known asclosing costs.

Examples of typical closing costs might include:

  • Title service cost(s), paid by either party according to the contract but by default seller may pay the majority, for title searchtitle insurance, and possibly other title services. In some cases the attorney may do the title search or the title service and attorney fees may be combined. Required by institutional/commercial lenders and often by the real estate contract.
  • Recording fees, paid by either party, charged by a governmental entity for entering an official record of the change of ownership of the property. Required by the governmentfor recording the deed.
  • Document or Transaction Stamps or Taxes, paid by either or both parties depending on location (area of jurisdiction), charged by a governmental entity as anexcise tax upon the transaction. Required by law.
  • Survey fee for a survey of the lot or land and all structures on it, paid by either party, to confirm lot size and dimensions and check for encroachments. Required by institutional/commercial lenders.
  • Brokerage Commission, paid by the seller to a Real Estate Broker, to compensate the Broker(s) involved in the sale for their services in marketing the property, finding a buyer, and assisting in the negotiations. Brokerage commissions are usually computed as a percentage of the sale price, and are established in a listing agreementbetween the seller and the listing broker. The listing broker may offer Buyer Agents a portion of their commission as an incentive to find buyers for the property. Payment is required if real estate brokerage service was used. This is often one of the largest closing costs.
  • Mortgage Application Fees, paid by the buyer to the lender, to cover the costs of processing their loan application. In some cases, the buyer would pay the lender the application directly and prior to closing, while in other cases the fee is part of the buyer’s closing costs payable at closing.
  • Points, paid by the buyer to the lender. Points are a form of pre-paid interest, charged by the lender as an alternative to charging a higher rate of interest on the mortgage loan. One point equals one percent of the loan principal.
  • Appraisal Fees, usually paid by the buyer (although occasionally by the seller through negotiation), charged by a licensed professional Appraiser. Many lenders will require that an appraisal be performed as a condition of the mortgage loan. The purpose of this appraisal is to verify that the sale price of the property (upon which the underwriting of the loan is based) is equal to or less than the fair market value of the property.
  • Inspection Fees, usually paid by the buyer (although occasionally by the seller), charged by licensed home, pest, or other inspectors. Some lenders require inspections (such as termite inspection) to verify that the property is in good condition, which is necessary to assure that the property will retain the necessary collateral value to secure the mortgage loan.
  • Home Warranties, paid by either the buyer or the seller. Warranties are available on resale homes insuring major household systems against repair or replacement for the buyer’s initial year of ownership. Sellers will sometimes offer these warranties as a marketing strategy, or buyers can elect to purchase them at closing.
  • Pre-paid Property Insurance, paid by the buyer but may be reimbursed by the seller. Lenders will typically require that a mortgaged property be insured at all times throughout the life of the mortgage, and will usually require that the first full year’s property insurance premium be paid in advance by the buyer. If the buyer has not already paid the insurance company directly, this would become another closing cost payable at closing.
  • Pro-rata property taxes, paid by the seller, the buyer, or both. Most (but not all) jurisdictions assess taxes on real property, which are usually payable at a specified date annually. Since all but a tiny fraction of real estate transactions close on a date other than this one specified annual date, most transactions must include an adjustment to assure that both the seller and the buyer end up paying their share of the annual property tax, proportionate to the percentage of the year that each has ownership of the property. Usually required by institutional/commercial lenders and by the real estate contract.
  • Pro-rata Homeowner Association Dues, paid by the seller, buyer, or both. If the property is covered by a Homeowner Association (HOA), the HOA will normally be funded by dues assessed against each property owner. Again, since the ownership of the seller and buyer are each fractional in the year of the transaction, there must be an adjustment made so that each owner pays their proportional share. Often required by institutional/commercial lenders and by the real estate contract.
  • Pro-rata Interest, paid by the buyer but may be reimbursed by the seller. The monthly mortgage payment is calculated and payable on a specified day each month. If the closing does not actually fall on that specified date (which is usually the case), then an adjustment must be made to calculate the interest on the loan for the number of extra days until the first payment is due.

Other items in addition to the above may be common in some jurisdictions, and some transactions may include unusual or unique items as closing costs. In the United States, Federal law requires that all residential transactions financed by a mortgage have all closing costs documented in detail upon the standard HUD-1 form. This information must be provided to the principals but does not have to be sent to the government. Instead a Declaration or Statement by Buyer and/or Seller is often required to be provided to the government office recording the deed. Form 1099-S may be required to be sent to the United States Internal Revenue Service, but Federal law does not allow a charge for this.

Mastery by Stewart Emery

September 17, 2008

Mastery in our careers (and in our lives!) requires that we constantly
produce results beyond and out of the ordinary. Mastery is a product
of consistently going beyond our limits. For most people, it starts with
technical excellence in a chosen field and a commitment to that
excellence. If you’re willing to commit yourself to excellence, to
surround yourself with things that represent this excellence, your life
will change.
It’s remarkable how much mediocrity we live with, surrounding
ourselves with daily reminders that average is somehow acceptable.
In fact, our world suffers from terminal normality. Take a moment to
assess all the things around you that promote your being “average.”
These are the things that prevent you from going beyond the limits
that you’ve arbitrarily set for yourself.
The first step to mastery is the removal of everything in your
environment that represents mediocrity, and one way to attain that
objective is to surround yourself with people who ask more of you
than you would ordinarily give of yourself. Didn’t your parents and
some of your best teachers and coaches do exactly that?
Another step on the path to mastery is the removal of resentment
toward the masters. Develop compassion for yourself so that you
can be in the presence of a master and grow from the experience.
Rather than comparing yourself to (and resenting) people who have
mastery, remain open and receptive. Let the experience be like the
planting of a seed within you that, with nourishment, will grow into
your own individual mastery.
You see, we’re all ordinary. But rather than condemning himself for
his “ordinariness,” a master will embrace that ordinariness as a
foundation for building the extraordinary. Rather than relying on his
ordinariness as an excuse for inactivity, he’ll use it instead as a
vehicle for correcting himself. It’s necessary to be able to correct
yourself without invalidating or condemning yourself to
use the
results of the correction process to improve upon other aspects of
your life. Correction is essential to power and mastery.

哲理

财散人聚,财聚人散。

小胜凭智,大胜靠德。

只有诚心,才能换来诚信。大诚信其实就是“大智慧。

财富重在支配不在占有。

一个人快乐不是因为他拥有得多,而是因为计较得少。

吃亏是福,占便宜是祸。

有形的东西,越分越少;无形的东西,越分越多。

不想占便宜的人很难吃亏,不想吃亏的人很难占便宜。

钱这个东西,放在手里越多,越是坏东西;散出去越多,越是好东西。

成功是优点的发挥,失败是缺点的积累。

修身

看别人不顺眼,首先是自己修养不够。

一个人快乐不是因为他拥有得多,而是因为计较得少。

吃亏吃到再也吃不进的时候,就不会吃亏了。苦多了,甜就大了。

听不到奉承的人是一种幸运,听不到批评的人却是一种危险。

老老实实做事,本本分分做人。

每天进步一点,每天突破自我,就能走在前面。

人不要担心地位不尊贵,而要担心道德不高尚;不要耻于待遇不丰厚,而要耻于知识不渊博。

发生任何问题,先从自己身上找问题。因为改变自己容易,改变别人难。

磨练越大,福气越大。

好心态才有好状态。

帮助别人,但不伤害别人。

要想知道,打个颠倒;打了颠倒,啥都知道。

对自己所喜欢的人,要看到他的短处,对自己所厌恶的人,要看到他的长处。

你如果拿五分的力量跟别人较劲,别人会拿出十二分的力量跟你较劲。

警句

有干劲,你就洒下汗水;有知识,你就献出智慧;二者都不具备,请你让出岗位。

一个人智力有问题,是次品;一个人的灵魂有问题,就是危险品。经营人心就是经营事业。

让认识你的人受益,还不能算好;让不认识你的人也受益,那才是真好。

想赢个三回两回,三年五年,有点智商就行;想做个百年老店,想一辈子赢,没有德商绝对不行。

人人都是人才,就看放的是不是地方。

铁饭碗的真正含义不是在一个地方吃一辈子饭,而是一辈子到哪儿都有饭吃。

有德有才,破格重用;有德无才,培养使用;有才无德,限制录用;无德无才,坚决不用。

优点突出的人,往往缺点也突出。无缺点就无优点。

有问题就拿“差额工资”,没问题就拿全额工资,成绩卓著就拿超额工资,铸成大过就拿负数工资。

学得辛苦,做得舒服;学得舒服,做得辛苦。

人不能把金钱带入坟墓,但金钱却可以把人带入坟墓。

思路决定出路,布局决定结局,吨位决定座位,脑袋决定口袋,心胸决定功勋。

该花的钱不花,那叫缺位;不该花的钱乱花,那叫越位;把钱花在刀刃上,那才叫责任。

太阳光大,父母恩大,君子量大,小人气大。

成功从简单的重复开始。

80%的喜剧与钱没关系,80%的悲剧与钱有关系。

感悟

世界上还有很多事情,只要你把它做透了,做成专家,你就能够为自己创造成功的机会。

不要小看小地方,小地方的人不想则已,一想便是着眼全国的大事!

一个人一生只做一件事,肯定比三年做东、五年做西的人更容易成功。

这个世界不是有权人的世界,不是有钱人的世界,而是有心人的世界。

领导给员工送钱,这叫对员工的关怀;员工给领导送钱,那叫对领导的行贿。

自己不会练兵,永远别想打仗。

从最不满意的客户身上,学到的东西最多。

经营企业就是经营人心。

人不能重活企业可以重来。

毛泽东让大家为公家干,邓小平让大家为自己干。

市场部是买人心的,销售部是卖东西的。

品牌的98%是文化,经营的98%是人性,资源的98%是整合,矛盾的98%是误会。

做人的公司做不小,做事的公司做不大。不关心大家的小事,大家就不会关心企业的大事

作为父母的好儿子,妻子的好丈夫,孩子的好父亲,我想这只是做人的最低标准。当你不熟悉和跟你没有血缘关系的人,承认你或者是能熟悉你时,这才是社会价值。

从无到有是很快乐的,但最大的快乐是从有到无。很多人不能从有到无,是因为他没有拥有财富。死在巨富的行列里是一件可耻的事,人生最快乐的时候是你散钱的时候。

亿万富翁也有苦恼的时候.,街头乞丐也有快乐的时候。所以,拥有财富并不代表快乐。快乐的根本在心情,在不过分计较

我喜欢哲学。我评价事物,没有参照物的不作评价;我听取汇报,没听正反两方面的意见不作表态;我看人生,就是浮中有沉,沉中有浮。


消费无止境,创造无边界

市场是消费者创造的,也是生产者创造的。自从看到鸟的翱翔,人类就想飞,于是有人造出了飞机,这叫做“满足需求”;自古誊抄是苦差,可是没人需求过复印机,直到聪明人把它制造出来了,大家才恍然大悟,这叫做“创造需求”。

历史有多久,需求就有多远。消费无止境,创造无边界。

水果有多少种吃法?直啃,切块,剁泥,榨汁,沙拉,罐头,泡茶……蒙牛也创造了一种新需求:果粒酸奶。

新闻有多少种传播方式?口传,纸印,马送,车递,电报,广播,电影,电视,互联网……蒙牛也提出了一个新观念:产品包装也是大众传媒。

大千世界,古往今来,现实的需求,潜在的需求,创造的需求,可谓星罗棋布,层出不穷。作为一家企业,如何在这些纷纭的需求中寻找自己的“定位点”,发掘自 己的“生长点”,抢占自己的“制高点”?这就需要在“创市”上下功夫,不管是捕捉新的消费需求,还是创造新的消费需求,二者都在“创市”之列。

如何创市?我认为要经营好“三局”:选局,做局,保局。

选局:不缺少发现,怕缺少思考

有句名言:“这世界不缺少美,而是缺少发现美的眼睛。”

但我想说:这世界不缺少发现,而是缺少发现后的思考。

何出此言?因为从古到今“苹果从上往下掉”这个事实大家都发现了(可见不缺少“发现”),但只有牛顿思考了(最稀缺的就是这种“深度思考”),于是,惟有牛顿透过现象看本质,揭示出了“万有引力”。

企业“选局”也是这样,市场上的需求千千万万,你到底去满足哪一个?这就既要放出眼光,又要放出脑髓——思考,做出有策略的抉择。

这里,根据以往的实践,提出几条参考策略。

策略一:坚持“优生优育”的产品策略,要“养虎”,不要“恋羊”。

刚开始那几年,我们只做六七个产品。2000年的时候,有一次去酒泉参观一家乳制品企业。在其展览室里,陈列着四十多种产品,可谓琳琅满目!于是,随行的 领导很不高兴地责怪我:“你们才做六七种。”我没说什么。等宾主双方在会议室里座谈的时候,酒泉的那位厂长喜滋滋地说:“去年我们销了5万多元,今年的发 展态势非常好,计划做到48万元的销售额!”阿弥陀佛,他40多个产品全年才销48万元,我的六七个产品那时已经销到2个多亿了。接下来,轮到批评我的领 导自觉难堪了。

所以,做产品,最需要讲究的就是“优生优育”。生下羊,哪怕一窝也不值钱;生下虎,哪怕一只也大有本事!滥生滥育,生得越多浪费越大!

策略二:把先发市场中的需求“移植”到后发市场。

全世界的经济发展、消费进步基本上是梯度推进的。一般而言,发达国家的今天就是发展中国家的明天。

2003年,根据发达国家乳业的发展历程,以及中国人均GDP不断提高的现实,我们判断,继纯牛奶之后,益生菌酸奶消费潜力巨大,可以成为中国乳业的一支 生力军。据此,蒙牛建立了亚洲最大的酸奶生产基地,从全世界引进益生菌种,并在全国推动益生菌知识普及,于是,消费者争相购买,其他企业也争相跟进。这等 于在中国市场创造了消费益生菌酸奶这一新需求。到2006年底,蒙牛酸奶已连续16个月排名全国第一。

策略三:开发领先产品或拥有自主知识产权的独家产品。

2000年,我们在中国乳业中率先推出利乐枕牛奶,为蒙牛成为全球液态奶冠军立下了汗马功劳。2006年,我们推出具有自主知识产权的高端牛奶特仑苏,为蒙牛的“世界牛”形象增添了新的光彩。

做局:不缺少创意,怕缺少创造

如果说“选局”是一种决策,那么“做局”就是一种决战。

选局不佳,做再多的局,也是南辕北辙,事倍功半。

选局上乘,但若徒有“创意”,不事创造,没有扎扎实实的奠基工程,那么,所推出来的产品就会成为短命的“概念产品”、“作秀产品”、“诈伪产品”。

2004年,中国乳制品企业群体推出一个当时看起来前途无量的产品:奶片。市场需求也是异常旺盛。然而,不到六个月,奄奄一息!为什么?行业整体准备不 足,既没有统一标准,也缺乏自我约束——也就是“做局”不到位——结果是良莠不齐、泥沙俱下,惹得专家声讨、媒体棒喝,彻底败坏了消费者的胃口,“一哄而 上”的结果是“一哄而下”,三月登明堂,五月赴黄泉,新的消费需求被扼杀在摇篮中!

凡巨大需求的创造,来自1%的天才加99%的汗水——这1%就是选局,那99%就是做局。

蒙牛液态奶销量全球第一的“局”是怎么做出来的?第一,我们建起了中国第一批全球样板工厂;第二,我们建起了中国第一批国际示范牧场;第三,我们坚持“三 做合一”——做事、做势、做市,像航天员专用牛奶、运动员专用牛奶等一系列资格的取得,对蒙牛品牌的传递起到了极大的作用。

保局:不缺少先机,怕缺少壁垒

在市场上,抢先机者往往占有主动权。但情况并非永远如此,如果缺乏必要的竞争壁垒,“先驱”变“先烈”也是极有可能的事情。先发不一定赢,后发不一定输,但不发一定会死。

可口可乐的独特配方,让可口可乐活了一百多年,它既赢得了先机,也筑起了壁垒。

蒙牛酸酸乳做火后,各种品牌的“酸酸乳”如雨后春笋,这等于当初没形成壁垒,于是,你投资形成的品牌却被众多竞争队友所瓜分;好在2006年一场官司,使酸酸乳成为中国第一个非注册驰名商标,终使开发者的利益受到了合理的保护。

而蒙牛历史上最沉痛的事情,莫过于商号被他人在酒类领域的冒用。品牌理念的冲突,品牌资产的流失,商号重名的干扰,“城门失火,殃及池鱼”的连锁效应,都 给我们带来不应有的困扰。经过2002年至2006年长达5年的司法努力,“商号保卫战”有了结果,冒用得以取缔,这是非常重大的一次保局。

经济全球化,把所有企业都平等地放在了全球擂台上,国内竞争国际化,国际竞争白热化!那么,中国企业靠什么生存和发展?靠什么实现“后来居上”?关键靠创新。只有自主创新,才能形成竞争壁垒,才能在国际市场上步步为营。

国家与国家的竞争,战争年代靠军队,和平年代靠商队。中国企业在坚持自主创新的道路上,只有精准“选局”,精心“做局”,精明“保局”,才能在国际竞争中,为自己树牌,为国家争光。


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怎样才能使员工更快乐?员工给自己干活最快乐。生产队的社员、国营工厂里的工人,往往越干越不快乐。我们要把给自己干与给社会干结合起来。51%给自己干,其余的给别人干、单位干、国家干、人民干。也就是说,要让“给自己干”控股。

当然,世界上不可能有100%的为自己干。

我们有句话:“要想知道,打个颠倒”。我小时候打零活,给人家砌地,不敢和人家一起吃饭。人家说:“你就在这里吃吧。”于是,受到尊重的那种感觉,仿佛一 股暖流通遍全身。之后到了单位,就特别希望领导能够尊重、关心、重视。现在反过来想想,我们的员工何尝不是这样?所以,我的许多理念,全是体会的,不是背 会的。

但有些走上管理层的干部,可能没有过这样的体会,或者缺乏“打个颠倒”的家教,所作所为,经常使员工不痛快。

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给别人干,稍有不顺,往往牢骚满腹;给自己干,即使赔了,也是有悔无怨。

一些人在大集体中干活的时候,琢磨的是怎么样多拿一点,少累一点。当他们为自己干的时候,就变成了另一种样子。

有的开了一家小店,风里来雨里去,吃饭都没正点,可是,一年到头,算来算去,最后又把门关了,说“没赚钱”;有的好点,没赚钱赚了点货……虽然如此,还是 很快乐;即使不快乐,也是亲近者才知道,对外人绝不说不快乐。与在大集体劳动的时候相比,干活的时间长了,投入也大了,但他还是觉得自己干得有价值。由 此,我终于体会到了毛泽东思想与邓小平理论在对待个人问题上的差异。最大差异就是:是否让“为自己干”控股。以前我们既要担心能力问题,也要担心态度问 题;实施邓小平理论后,再也不用担心“态度问题”了。

有一年我们雇工程队处理草坪。工程很急,起初几天按天数算工钱,每天最多处理6000平米。后来加了点儿邓小平理论,按平米算工钱。结果,第二天就突破一 万平米!人还是那些人,机器还是那些机器,草还是那些草,蒙牛还是那个蒙牛,但就因为制度不一样、态度不一样,速度也就不一样了。

世界上,“虎毒不食子”都不起作用:为了垂帘听政,可以杀儿;为了夺位,可以弑父。从历史规律看,在权力和利益面前,有时连父子关系、兄弟关系都靠不住。所以,我最放心的就是让员工“为自己干”。

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8年前,蒙牛成立时就是那么几条枪,十几个人。现在,光生产基地就有50多个,各层级负责人上千,员工3万多人。

高管团队的直系亲属是不准进企业的。我们在企业里的“亲人”,就是那些与我们的血统没有一点瓜葛的人。

蒙牛的成长性在世界乳业中是排名第一的,用中央电视台说的话,叫做“一头牛跑出了火箭的速度”。

这种成长性,最低限度,得靠五个快乐:亿万消费者快乐,千万股民快乐,百万奶农快乐,数十万销售队伍快乐,3万员工快乐。今后能不能发展,关键看能不能让他们快乐。

从物质上,我们要坚持“共同富裕”;从精神上讲,我们要坚持“共同快乐”。

我们的卫生工就非常快乐,特别关心企业的事情,对企业有建议,还不留名。这种员工不仅有归属感,而且有成就感。

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企业要真正尊重员工,必须强调“机会均等”。

2003年我们以市场化模式兴建住宅小区,当时总部地区有7000多名员工,工会让每个员工都签交了书面意见:要不要房子,要多大的房子,自己贷款自己承担风险与企业无关。

和谐和谐,“口”中有“禾”(粮食)则“和”,“皆”能畅所欲“言”则“谐”。

通过全员征求意见,有300多人要房子。我们就撬动市场杠杆为这380多人盖了房子。两年后,房产大为紧俏。有人问:“其他员工是否满意?”我说:“满意,所有人的意见在我们工会档案室里放着呢!”

如果说我们企业里有什么东西不均等,那就是“官”越大“自由”越小。你得给员工送礼,但员工不能给你送礼。我在原企业的时候,有个主管把20斤牛肉送到我 家,结果弄得我差点妻离子散,我对老婆说,你送回去,不送回去我们就离婚——有了这次教训,这个主管就长了记性,有一次,他手下的一个员工收了人家一条羊 腿,他批评道:“你送回去!我送你两条羊腿好不好?”习惯是一点一滴养成的,如今,我们高管团队年年拿自己的钱给员工送礼,几万、几十万、几百万、几千万 地送。

我个人在董事长、总裁岗位上所获年薪、红利、奖金,我算了一下,80%用在了员工和弱势群体身上。而建立“老牛专项基金”后,它的收益则完全用于各项社会公益事业。

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一个企业有没有竞争力,关键取决于员工;员工有没有竞争力,工资水平是核心要素之一。这是“原始的核动力”。如果有谁把“原始的核动力”搞下降了,他的市场地位就会每况愈下。

5年之内,我们要想办法让全员年人均工资达到一万美金。

一个爱护消费者的企业,一定要首先爱护自己的员工;一个注重竞争力的企业,一定要把员工收入的增长列为第一优先的财务指标——员工由于热爱工资指标,进而会热爱企业的其他指标,这样才能上下同欲,最终实现同步增长。

一切竞争都可以归结为人的竞争。但人才是有价的,人才供求是遵循价值规律的。在人才自由流动的机制中,当员工收入指标优先于其他指标的时候,意味着你总是 能够“购买”到略高于企业自身发展水平的人力资源,反复循环的结果,就是你的企业发展水平越来越高,形成了一个“向高循环”的良性系统;反之,当员工收入 指标落后于其他指标的时候,你就会洞入“向低循环”的恶性系统。

“工资级差”,最终造成的将是“人才级差”。

“人才级差”,最终造成的将是“企业级差”。

我经常说一句话:请来绵羊,一千头也不行;请来狮子,一头就管用。

  1. 雇好员工
  2. 得新客户
  3. 留住客户

成功的商业模式

August 20, 2008

  1. 问客人要什么
  2. 找到客人要的
  3. 拿去给客人

授权的方法

August 20, 2008

1. 清楚的描述工作内容和所期待的结果。并且确认下属完全了解。
2. 授权给证明了自己有能力的人。
3. 解释规定,限制,和框架。
4. 告知可以用的资源: 人力,资金,材料,和工具。
5. 接受问题和反馈。
6. 给与时间表和限期。
7. 衡量-检查期待的结果。可以衡量的结果才会实现, 可以衡量的事情才可以被管理, 无法衡量的事情是无法修改的。
8. 赏罚分明-赏要看个人的贡献和个人对团队的贡献。
9. 只做自己才能做的事情,别人也可以做的事情授权给别人做。

成功的方法

August 20, 2008

  1. 集思广益
  2. 综合天时,地利,人合我们下定决心决定自己要做什么
    • 天时-时机的控制:知道先做什么后做什么。知道什么时候做。
    • 地利-知道在哪里做最有利
    • 人合-知道和谁做怎么合作最有利
  3. 学习和模仿达到这个目标所要的技能和工具
  4. 集中所有精力去执行所学到的
  5. 依据现实情况适当调试和执行
  6. 授权
  7. 风险控制-发觉并且控制可能造成失败的大风险

1. 决定-学习-执行
2. 聚焦-把精力聚焦在比较高价值和更加重要的目标上。
3. 集中精力-在主要的工作上直到百分之百完成。
4. 不断进步-在你的主要职能上不断进步。
5. 授权-授权所有别人可以做的和低收入/小时的人可以做的事情。
6. 集中-把几个事情一起做。
7. 衡量-行为,进度,目标,结果
8. 外包-所有特殊技能的事情。
9. 淘汰-和去掉自己不需要做的事情。
10. 推迟做不重要的事情。
11. 排列事情的顺序-先做什么后做什么?

1. 重要和紧急的,
2. 重要的不紧急的,
3. 不重要的紧急的,
4. 不重要的不紧急的,

10. 要求所有下属用以下模式问问题 :

1. 只能用一句话描述问题(没有问题复杂到不能用一句话描述);
2. 找出三个最好的解决方案和建议;
3. 提出建议其中的哪一个解决方案。

The truth

August 20, 2008

* The folks who keep doing little things, expecting BIG results, especially when circumstances seem to indicate that tomorrow will pretty much be exactly the same as yesterday, no matter what they do today.These are the world’s movers and shakers -The Universe
• Everything worth doing is worth doing poorly since we seldom do it perfectly well on our first try. Wanting to be perfect on the first try is what stopping most people from accomplishing anything in their lives.
• Our quality of life is directly proportional to what we make non-negotiable. what if we stop tolerate mediocrity.
• I can either be right or rich, but not both. the need to be right is what keeps me from trying new things.
• Everything i want lies on the other side of fear and outside of our comfort zone.
• Everybody in the front of the line started in the beginning of the line and stayed in line.
• Mastery is small constant improvements made daily. success comes from mastery.

1. everything worth doing is worth doing poorly since we seldom do it perfectly well on our first try. Wanting to be perfect on the first try is what stopping most people from accomplishing anything in their lives.
2.  our quality of life is directly proportional to what we make non-negotiable. what if we stop tolerate mediocrity.
3.  I can either be right or rich, but not both. the need to be right is what keeps me from trying new things.
4. everything i want lies on the other side of fear and outside of our comfort zone.
5. everybody in the front of the line started in the beginning of the line and stayed in line.
6. mastery is small constant improvements made daily. success comes from mastery.

Love is a complicated matter to explain. Previously I have attempted to explain ingredients of a healthy relationship, however, I felt I could not possibly cover all aspect of it so I gave up on doing so and deleted it. Then I thought about it. It is OK. I don’t have to get it all right, after all who can, who can completely explain love? Nobody can. So, I will just write what I already knew. and maybe you can fill in the blanks.

I will cover many important aspect of relationship here, but even you have done it all your relationship probably still won’t work, however there is a secret, and it is at the end of this essay.

Communication
Men should talk in women’s language and vice versa.

Like for Like’s Sake (I am not sure what Love is yet, so I call it like)

It is OK for a guy to like a girl partly because she is voluptuous. It is OK for a girl to like a guy partly because he is rich and/or powerful. However, it is not OK when the girl doe not like the guy (no chemistry), but stay with the guy because the guy can provide for her (this can go both ways).

Chemistry
Chemistry is a mysterious thing to explain. I doubt I can pull it off here, so I will not try, but I do think it has something to do with our parents, about the quality we admire in a person,  what is considered beautiful and good in our society. OK, that is all I am gonna say about chemistry.

Mutual Agreement of Standards
there has to be mutual agreement of standards on just about every thing in a relationship. For example maybe your mate don’t like your way of squeezing the toothpaste. You can agree with it, then problem solved. this problem is a little easier to solve if you love your mate and is willing to go with it.

However, there are more complicated issues in a relationship than how to squeeze toothpaste. How each partner interacts with members of the opposite sex outside of the relationship is a major issue in relationship sometimes.*

For example, your boyfriend may have a habit of always taking phone calls away from you and you are really bothered by that, so here we have a disagreement of standard on how each of you answer phone calls. there are a couple of ways to solve it. option 1. your boyfriend may agree to answer all of the phone calls in front of you when he is with you. problem solved. option 2, You may suck it up and let him answer his phone call however he prefers. problem solved only if you are really OK with it and not just saying you  are OK with it. Option 3. your boyfriend still answers his phone call his way. you are still not OK with it, but you tell him. ‘I am not comfortable with you doing that, however I want you to be sure to let me know when you think there is some one that you are attracted to before you get involved with that person that way I am aware and can make the decision to leave if I wanted to.’ (Ideally speaking this may work, but in reality it is not very likely.)

As you can see here, the key here is not how high or low the standard is, as long as you two have reached an agreement on that standard that is what matters.

*we are using conventional relationships here, so if you have other than conventional relationship the topic applies to you too except that the characters involved has different genders.

Mutual Respect
In public, we normally have to be polite to the people that we interact with because that is the accepted way to interact with other people and most of the time we are obligated to be civil because our livelihood depends on it. In our private lives it is a little different. Some times we don’t depend on our loved ones to make a living, so we are civil with them because we really love them, but some times things get out of hand. Maybe the two are in an argument, or maybe one have had a bad day, whatever reason it maybe some of us don’t treat our loved ones as good as we should have. this is where one has to make sure to always respect the loved ones just because we love them, not because of any exterior obligations.

Mutual Trust
This one is very crucial. It is a one way street. once it is gone it is not very likely that you will get it back, so don’t mess it up. The best way to avoid mistrust is to not lie at all. that is the best policy. If you lie there is no end to it and you need to keep lying. If you have had a change of heart, just move on. it is really a pain to continue to grind it out when there is nothing left.  the only way it might continue to work is when the two still love each other and the one that was being cheated on is willing to forgive the one that has cheated. that is the only way it will work. One good friends of mine have been with his girlfriend for a long time and he has taken a lot of shit from her (yeah. some can be really bitchy). He also forgive his girlfriend and now they are doing great. I can not believe they are still together. If I were him, she would have been long gone.

Balance
There has to be a balance between the two. It seldom work out if the love tips too much to one side. Some acquaintance I knew  loves his wife a lot. I don’t know if his wife loves him, but certainly much less than his love for her. Even if she had some feeling for him, those feelings are all gone by now due to the guys smothering way of love. You see there is no balance here. He checks her call records all the time, questions his wife if she wants to get a divorce, there is just no end. It is completely out of balance. It is not gonna work. If I were his wife, I’d go banana too. The balance point here is not really a condition, it is more of a wrong start. It happens usually because of the partners decided to be with one another due to some alternative motives. It maybe money, immigration status, whatever it maybe except love. After all it is her fault, because I think she is only with him because she thinks she could have it easy, and now they are life is all messed up. She still could not let it go cause she could not make a living for herself. Now she has to looking for another unlucky guy (this whole thing can go both ways). See that is the power of karma, so do good and don’t be evil.

Look Good for Your Partner
Initially, I did not included this point in the writing, but one of my female blog readers commented this point, so I will briefly talk about it. Have you noticed, during the beginning of the relationship when the two are really in love you always make sure that  you look your best when you meet each other? As the relationship furthers down the road. the one that is still really hot for the other will continue to look good for the partner, but the one that has sort of lost interest in the other will start to neglect his or her appearance. that is a sign that your partner’s interest in you is rapidly diminishing (it may not always be the case, but in most cases it is true). From my past experience, I felt that if I like the person a lot, even if she did not keep her appearance really well, I still liked and loved her. If the girl that I am with I don’t really like  her that much and if she did not maintain her appearance well, then I would get annoyed very quickly. I don’t know how girls feel about this point, so you can comment on this.

Good Sex

Overall, I am probably not the ideal person to talk about relationship since my longest relationship did not last past three years, but since I am writing this I will just go with my personal experience.

Once in the car with a few coworkers after finishing lunch. I asked Angel (not her real name), ‘how long have you and your husband been married?’ She said, ‘12 years.’  Then, I asked her what does it felt like for you two now. She said she felt like her husband is like her cousin. I was dumbfounded hearing that answer. See I have never been in a relationship that long, so I would not know. For me I think sex is really important in a relationship. After all, all healthy people have needs in these department aren’t we all? It increases productivity too and betters relationships too, so why now.

So, you are here and you wonder. Wow these is a lot that I have to look out for in a relationship and after all that my relationship still may not work.  Is it really that hard? Actually it is not. Let me share the secret with you now.
Type of sex

quicky-not much foreplay and don’t take too long. it can be done anywhere.

home made dinner sex-simple preparation at home, good foreplay, and good sex.

Fine Dinning sex-aimed to please the female partner. take her out, make her feel like the queen, and come back home have great sex.

the Secret
Once I heard a story on radio. A reporter interviewed an old couple. They have been married for 70 years. the reporter asked the old couple: “what is the secret of your long lasting relationship?” The old man said: “We never give up on each other at the same time.”

so this is my rough draft. any comments?

Confused with your life?

August 13, 2008

Confused with your life? Desperately need someone to guide you? while you are still looking for a mentor why not pick up these books. If  you don’t like to read you can always get the audio versions. I have also explained how to get these books really cheap.

I would say buy them all at once and read them in the following order (instructions on buy books really cheap follows after the book list):

1. The Mastery of Love-by Don Miguel Ruiz,
2. The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success – by Deepak Chopra,
3. Hackers and Painters by Paul Graham, http://www.paulgraham.com/articles.html,
4. My Start-Up Life by Ben Casnocha,
5. the 4-hour workweek by timothy Ferriss,
6. The Art of the Start by Guy Kawasaki,
7. Founders at Work by Jessica Livingston,
8. How To Make Millions with Your Ideas – by Dan S. Kennedy,
9. Let My People Go Surfing: The Education of a Reluctant Businessman by Yvon Chouinard,
10. Execution by Larry Bossidy and Ram Charan,
11. The One-Minute Manager by Spencer Johnson and Kenneth Blanchard,
12. The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni,
13. The Great Game of Business by Jack Stack and Bo Burlingham,
14. Sam Walton: Made In America by Sam Walton,
15. Blue Ocean strategy by W. Chan Kim and Renée Mauborgne.

Instruction on how to get your books really cheap on amazon (let us use finding the One Minute manager by Spencer Johnson and Kenneth Blanchard as an example) :

1. Type in either the book’s name, the author’s name or both names together to find all editions and versions (paperback, hardcover, audio CDs, and audio cassettes) of the books. in the search results there maybe different versions of the same editions. the audio cassette versions are the cheapest. many of them under 1 dollar.

2. In the search results look at the used or new inventories from third party (this is what the link looks like: “1064 Used & new from $0.96″).

3. Click on this link “1064 Used & new from $0.96″ to open up the third party inventories.

4. Upon opening the page compare the lowest price for used and new items on the top bar.

5. If the new items have price that makes sense then buy new ones otherwise pick from the used books.

6. Before selecting the book make sure the seller’s feedback rating and number of ratings is what you are comfortable with and click on the add to chart button to purchase the book.

7. Be aware the shipping rate for media items are $3.5 flat on amazon, but it is still worth it because you can get many best selling books and audio books for a few dozen cents. Even after adding up the shipping cost They are still really cheap.

8. Sometimes when a book is so new there is no older edition and if there is no used ones for sale then you have no choice but by the new one. If you buy the new books on Amazon make sure you buy more then one to make up the $25 dollars so that you don’t have to pay for the shipping charge.

The North Star

Once upon a time all the stars in the sky shine the same brightness because they all wanted to look like each other. The North Star is a much brighter star amongst these stars. Although she is much brighter, she however shines like everybody else no brighter nor dimmer because she wanted her fellow stars to accept her. The way she had been shinning was not her true natural. One day she accidentally revealed her true brightness. A day in the sky is one year on earth and she could see that all the journeymen on earth are using her as a guiding light to find direction of north, so that they can find their ways. North star felt really happy and pleased that she is able to help so many people on earth finding their ways. Although she still wanted to look the same as other fellow stars, however she stopped from dimming herself to look the same as every other star because she saw that her brightness could help so many people on earth. She continued to shine her true brightness and helping those people on the road. From thereon, she started to be her true self, a bright North Star.

Everything on earth originates from one source. A piece of rock, a worm, a bird, water, a human, a human of any kind, all arises from the same source in the universe. We all came from one single creator. Although we may all are very unique, however we are one the same. In physical matter we may be in unique form, however our substances are one of the same. There is no difference between you and me.

Some have a hard time accepting one self because he/she thinks he/she is too unique from everybody else. Although this person maybe indeed very unique from everybody else however this person is no different from everybody else. Yes indeed, some may judge this person because this person being judged is very unique from the person that is judging but that is ok. Everyone has the right to his or her opinion. Some may be open-minded while others are not. We have no control of others except ourselves. We can open our heart to everybody, instead of judging and not accepting. After all nobody is the same anyway. Why judge someone just because that someone is unique from you? More important, we will also not judge ourselves, but rather accept ourselves for who we are. We welcome the people that love us. What we will not do is to let the people that do not welcome us for who we are to diminish our self worth and our right for happiness.

If we have the above mentality we would no longer have hatred for anyone. We would no longer hide anything about ourselves from anyone. If we are indeed very unique from everybody else we may choose to advertise it or we may choose to just let it be but we will not make an attempt to hide it nor will we live in the fear of worrying about anybody else discovering our uniqueness. After all we are all the same, despite how unique we maybe from one another. After all being unique is a good thing. If we are exactly the same as everybody else how mundane would that be and how pointless would that be? Our unique talents would also be diminished, if we had hiding it from others. Our talents that could have helped others would have been wasted, just like North Star’s talent to shine brighter than every other star.

To become a star and a champion, one has to discover and because one is able to accept the true identity of oneself, no matter how unique this identity maybe from anybody else. The big hurdle in attempting this is dealing with the appearance of social norm and social conformity. Just like initially when North Star tried to hide her brightness because she mistakenly thought every star should shine the same brightness. In many cases people are brainwashed by the massive influence of social norm and social conformity. People are almost always very unique from one another, but because social norm is such a massive force that people sometimes mistaken it as their truth identity or the accepted way to be. People mistook the conventionally accepted norm as the character of oneself because that one person is bombarded with outside information daily. So to find oneself one needs to not look outward for the true identity of oneself so to avoid mistaking conventional norm as one self’s true identity, but to look inward to discover and find the true self. It is at this very moment when one finds true identity of oneself a star is born. Just like when North Star mistakenly found out how she could really help others when she shines her true brightness. It is then she gathered enough courage to be her true self and show her true identity. After all a star is deemed to be different. After all if a star is so mundane and ordinary like everybody else how could it ever shine? So remember to find yourself, accept and embrace your uniqueness. Discover the star in you, be daring to show your true identity regardless of how unique it maybe and be the start that you are.

if you dont know whether the guy likes you or not look at the following different levels of relationships:

Level 1. He likes you a lot even without sex (that means he really loves you for you)

Level 2. He loves you because of you  and with great sex

Level 3. He likes you a little and with sex

Level 4. He does not like you much and with sex

Level 5. He does not like you, no sex, but you give him an allowance

Level 6. He does not like you, no sex, no allowance, and no relationship.

Which level does your relationship belong to?

Starting out from brokering real estate can be a good way to learn the real estate business. it is a great way for you to serve others and learn the details in real estate transactions which can be very beneficial for your own real estate investment down the road. the real estate brokering business has a very low barrier of entry. on the plus side is that you don’t need much to get started, on the flip side is that when it is too easy to get into you have too many competitions. So if you want to stand out of the crowd you would have to separate yourself from the crowd one way or the other. Maybe it is your marketing exposure, or your excellent service, or it maybe your connections, or it maybe all of the above, but no matter what you have to be apart from the crowd. it is like the show business. you are either the top 5 percent that makes shipload of money or you are the 95% that is starving. A cautionary note, it is also abusiness that requires a lot of your time since it is a people oriented business.

As far as getting into real estate brokering.  you can do commercial or residential brokering.

on the brokering side there is residential or commercial brokering. For residential brokering you get smaller commission for each deal and you make more money by having more listings, unless you do luxury properties. you can find the top ranked residential brokers in your area, just email or call the mangers or owners of the office and set up an appointment. They don’t pay you salary so they would welcome any upbeat newcomers such as you.

how to pick a brokerage firm?

the difference between each firms is that you tend to get higher split from smaller local brokerages, maybe 80% to 90% and you don’t have to pay much fees such as insurance fee and desk fee. for national brokerages such as Re/Max, you will get less commission splits especially if you are starting out new. they will offer your split according to earnings of your previous year in the industry. however if you are starting out new an excellent training program will benefit you in the long run. On top of the smaller commission split you may have to pay other fees. But the larger firms provide more supports such as helping you to advertise in the local paper and the like then then fees you paid maybe justified, but do look out for and avoid the national brokerage firms that offers you small split and don’t offer much training. you can find out all these by interviewing with a few local and national franchised brokerage firms.

does training make a difference?

It does. some firms does it better than others. I think Re/Max and Keller Williams does a good job in this aspect.

on the commercial side:

It takes longer for you to earn commission but the amount of the commission will be much more substantial than what you earn on a typical residential transaction. You may get $100,000 in commission on a single commercial transaction but take one year to earn that where as you may get just $10,000 in commission on a residential transaction in just 60 days.

the difference between commercial and residential brokering:

In residential brokering. most people purchase home to live in. it is a home, so there mostly based on personal taste and emotion, unless it is residential real estate investing. Whereas in commercial almost all transactions are based on numbers. so in actual practice you will be dealing with investors and business people in commercial real estate whereas in residential you will be most likely dealing with mom and dad looking for a house for their sons and daughters that needs to enroll in the local school before the fall semester school year begins.

opening your own brokerage firm:

Once you have been in the real estate brokering business for a few years you may want to open a brokerage firm yourself. some good franchises you may consider are Keller Williams and help-u-sell.

Although many consider it a down market, I still ran into a lot of competitors whenever I tried to get a good deal. I am surprised at how many investors are out there hunting for good deals. Every time I make an offer on a below market home the answer I get from the agent is that we already have 3 offers on the property. If you want to get the house you better offer higher than the listing price. So here I have some things to share with you about how to make your offer appear more appealing to the seller.

Have a cover letter highlighting positive aspects of your offer in bold big letters, so that the agent/seller will see your pluses the second it prints out of their fax machine.

Examples of some of the positive things that sellers love to see are:

All Cash Offer

Excellent Fico/credit score (700+)

3% or more deposit

30% or more Down payment

Bank statement showing proof of down payment

Stable Employment History

W2 and Financial Statement showing proof of Income

To make sure that the seller counter you back make sure to provide as much proof document as possible (copy of 3% check for deposit, online bank statement print out proving source of down payment, copy of w2 or financial statement for proof of income.

After having a correct valuation of the home you want to buy now you can work on saving more money. the sources where you can save the most money when buying a home are:

1.  The seller. the higher the sense of urgency a seller has the more of a bargain you will get. to negotiate with a seller it is best to chop down the price little by little. For example if the comparable value of the home is $500k and the seller wanted $520k for his/her house if you just offer $400k straight out it is very likely you won’t get a counter offer. so the best way to do it is to chop off the price little by little. you can first make a $460k offer and have a comparable data showing value of the home to the seller. the seller may counter back $460 (you have just saved $40k off of the value of the home). To make sure that your offer is competitive please read my other blog on this page, “How to Beat Out Other Competitive Buyers.” In the initial offer make sure to include all of the items you wanted in the house and items needing repaired.

2. Intangible items in the home you wanted to buy. After agree upon on the price you can request for some of the items in the house such as refrigerator, washer and drivers, televisions and etc. you can save another $10,000 or more here. Some times it is an either or situation. you may get the bargain price but not the items, but it all depends on how motivated the seller is.

3. Repair Expenses. Upon acceptance of offer you can save more money by bargaining with the seller about the repairs. the seller may either help you to repair, give you the credit to repair, or not to repair anything. From the time of offer acceptance you have 14 days contingency period (in California) to perform your due diligence. this is the time to hire a inspector to find out everything that is wrong with the home. take that inspection report back to the seller and request for the repair (ask your agent to send a document called request to repair to the seller/seller agent). At this time the seller is more inclined to negotiate with you since he/she already spent substantial time working with you and that you two already have a contract. However you have the right to back out before the 14 days contingency period so the seller will likely to agree to your repair request.

4. Agent Commission. Save money on the agents commission. Many agents may beat on me for putting this up here, but it is just one of the options and when you use this option please be reasonable. the agents needs to feel they are adequately compensated for their work too. In a situation where one agent represent both the seller and you he/she maybe getting 5 or 6%  commission, in this case you may ask the agent to come down a 1 pint or 2 on the commission. It is a balance act you want to save some commission but your priority is still that the agent is happy enough with his/she commission and that stay loyal to you.

5. Mortgage Broker Commission. An inside fact that most consumer do not know is that the higher the interest point the mortgage broker gets you to pay the more commission he/she gets paid. Mortgage brokers are basically mortgage retailers. they get the wholesale rate from banks and resell the mortgage package to you. For example, if they get you to pay 7.5% interest they may get 3% of the money you borrow in commission whereas if you pay 6% interest they may get 1.5% in commission. There are other fees in a mortgage transactions too. Again you want to be reasonable. Maybe you can get the best interest rate but pay some fees. if you ask for both that would leave the mortgage brokers no profit. If you have great credit profile you may get a better deal by going straight to the bank. otherwise you may have to go through a mortgage broker to package the deal for you so that you can get the loan that is why the mortgage broker gets to make some profit. the rate of mortgage also differs greatly depending on whether it is a primary home that you are buying or investment home.

5.  Transaction Fees. the many transaction fees usually amounts to 2% of the purchase price. this is where most buyers overlook. you can go to this neat site to check out the approximate market cost of each items in your transaction  http://www.feedisclosure.com then ask your agent to see the HUD 1 settlement report to compare with the prices stated on feedislcosure.com to see whether the cost in this report is reasonable.

Correctly Valuing a Real Estate

Ways to valuate home price:

1. Using Trulia.com to valuate the home price;

a. Type in the full address in the window (Example:12345 Any street, City, State) & select property type;

b.  Scroll down and click on view all comparable;

c. scroll down to uncheck the box next to homes for sale under the map, make sure the box next to recently sold homes is checked;

d. click on the Recently sold homes large button make sure it becomes blue

e. Sort the sold data by clicking on the sold date column and look at the first 10 or 20 sold homes;

f. Hand pick homes to be compared by eliminating sold homes that are sold 4 or more month earlier, further than 1 mile away, with a sqft difference of more than 50 sqft, also eliminate the highest and the lowest price sold homes;

g. add up the price of all of the remaining homes and divide by the number of homes will get you a very accurate valuation of the home you intent to purchase or sell. This is how banks evaluate value of the homes too.

2. Quick Rough Estimation by per square foot method:

a. go to http://www.altosresearch.com/researchand select the state and city;

b.  scroll down to find out the Price Per Square Foot;

c. Multiply this price per square foot with the sq ft of the house you intend to purchase.

1. Find out the remaining life span of the roof. Roof is one of the largest expenses for apartment owners. make sure it is still in good quality when purchasing a rental property. If it is not use it as a bargaining tool to low the price or ask the seller for credit to repair.

2. Make sure the laundry machine rental contract pay out is reasonable. If not make sure the contract is terminating soon. Otherwise using it as a bargaining too as well.

3. Have the property inspected by an experienced physical inspector. You may also want to order an appraisal to get a fair market value.

4. Visit the property, talk to current tenants and inspect as many units as possible to find out all that is wrong with the property. Most importantly find out the condition of major items such as stove, dishwashers, air conditioning, water heaters, and roof. The repair of these items can bankrupt you very quickly, unless it is a fixer upper sold at significant bargaining price.

5. Choose property where people want to live, close to shops, parks and decent schools, and in a well-kept neighborhood. There’s nothing worse than owning a rental property without any renters. Make sure tenants from the area have plenty of employment opportunities. rental properties belong to the district of great schools (make sure it really belong to that district because in many cases people living in the same zip codes maybe asked to attend two very different schools) and nearby beaches are the best.

6. Search past records for vacancy rates over the last five to ten years as well as at present. the best way to get these data is by insisting to ask the seller for financial statements. If not at least get the rent roll.  Through the rent roll you can find out what lease terms current tenants are on, whether month to month or yearly lease. If yearly lease how much longer the lease term has remaining and the current rent rate.

7. bargaining points: anything physically wrong with the property, low pay out and long term contract for the laundry lease, short term tenant lease contract or long term tenant lease contract with low rental rate can all be used as bargaining chips while negotiating for the price of the rental property.

Life is a Chess Game

August 13, 2008

Life is a Chess Game

I have not played Chinese Checker since elementary school. Last night while hanging out with two 4 other friends I played it with a girl. She beat me really bad. I lost 4 times straight. I had not really been good with any kind of chess games, so I asked her how come she always find the way to jump so many steps in one play? She said you have to plan your game. And, while you are planning you cannot just look at your own game you have got to look at the opponent’s situation on the board as well and factor in the entire game to plan your strategy. This pointer helped me a lot and I got better with every game and finally beat her. Here is what I learned about what you have to do to win in life just like when you are playing the game of Chinese checker.

1. In life: Always ask, learn, and model after the expert. That way you will know the right way to do it.
In the chess game: If I had not asked her I would not have know I would have kept loosing.
2. In life: Before making any move always visualize every possible choice in mind first.
In the Chess game: Like a computer I just visually run through each of my pawns on the board and see which one could go the furthest given the situation at the time.

3. In Life: Whenever embarking on a goal you have to weight your situation as well as the market condition. and find out the endeavor  that you can garner the highest possibility of success.
In game: I recalculate every time before I make a move because the opponent’s pawns moves all the time and in many cases I have to rely on opponents to pick the pawn that can jump furthest.

4. In life: in the ancient Chinese saying, one famous quote says, ‘timing, location, and people.’ What it basically says is that you want to pick the easiest option that fits you best to maximize your chances of winning.
a. you have to look at the market condition (whether too early, too late, or just the right time);
b. you have to look at the location (where is it most advantageous to start the business, the east, the west, large cities or second tier cities, online or off line);
c. you also have to look at the people around you (which people to partner with or hire and which position to put them into).
In game: you have to consider the whole game to win.

5. In Life: before making a decision you have to pick the option that can benefit you in the long as well as short run.
in game: each move I make I try to set it up as best as possible so that it can prepare for my next pawn to move as far as they can.

6. In life: Life is like a game, if you stay idle, stay in your comfort zone, not making breakthrough and grow within yourself you don’t have a life. you just have an existence.
Life is like a game if you move blindly then you will loose every time and live a mere existence. You going about your life aimlessly without a goal, without planning, without meaning.
In life you only get what you want only if you kept trying, adjusting, modeling after successful people or make new creation and never give up.
In game: you will loose if you wait for too long. You will loose if you make a move blindly.

Make life a fun game. Don’t idle in fear. Don’t move blindly. Kept trying, learning, growing, creating, and succeeding. Never Give Up!

Fresh graduates should read this.

most newly graduates feel like they know a lot, but 2 or 4 years later most of them will feel like they don’t know much. college does not teach one intelligence. college only teaches one the tools needed to accumulate intelligence.

after college or even in college one should accumulate three things: reputation, money, and know-how.

One build reputation by giving your all at everything you do.

One build know-how by doing and improving the same task for long enough until one masters it to a certain degree. although one will never totally master anything but at least to a certain level.

One accumulate money by putting aside at least 10%  or more of ones earnings before one pays anybody else and by investing. One invest by buy low and sell high. One only make money from buying not from selling.

reputation, money and know-how do not mean much, but life itself means something and for our life to mean something we have to do something meaningful within our life time. And anything meaning we want to accomplish needs reputation, money, and know-how.